Somethngcreative Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Hello, I'm one of the lucky ones that found a girl that appreciates me for who I am. However, some girls in the past never even gave me a chance because I was "too nice." It was like a disease that girls were scared of lol. Anyways, out of curiosity, why do some girls prefer bad guys over good guys? Is it because us nice guys are considered safe and boring or something else? Thanks
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 This topic has been covered here many times before. Bad boys get their panties wet. 2
USMCHokie Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Bad boys get their panties wet. While nice guys pay for the panties that girls get wet in thinking about bad boys. 3
apple OR orange Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 this thread again... bad boys are alpha, women like power... makes good sex partners..
KathyM Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Women are drawn to masculine traits. Strength, assertiveness, confidence, sometimes cockiness, fearlessness, and someone who is good with women. Those are traits that bad boys tend to have. Unfortunately, they also have bad traits. Good guys can have those same positive traits, and they will be appealing to women also. I don't know why people equate being a good guy with being timid, weak, withdrawn and lacking in confidence. 4
ChessPieceFace Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Hello, I'm one of the lucky ones that found a girl that appreciates me for who I am. However, some girls in the past never even gave me a chance because I was "too nice." It was like a disease that girls were scared of lol. Anyways, out of curiosity, why do some girls prefer bad guys over good guys? Is it because us nice guys are considered safe and boring or something else? Thanks It's called animal nature. Humans have barely evolved beyond it, and in terms of mating they are fully mired in it. During our evolution as a species, and really in most animal species, dominant males can protect and provide for their women. Even though in our modern society, half the time these "dominant males" are thick-headed boozing/drug-addict cheaters, it doesn't matter. Their personality still appeals to the female psyche. You're not going to change the nature of the ape race on this rock you inhabit. All you can do is keep trying to look for the people who are the exceptions, and try to not let the animal behavior of humans tear down your spirit too much. 1
HuffmanMontana Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 You can be a nice guy and still be assertive, confident, and sexy. Woman like nice guys, they don't like pushovers. 6
Imported Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Maybe you're not a nice guy. Or an exception. Maybe people aren't that simple. Maybe no girl is really attracted to you at all and your girlfriend just accepted she wasn't going to get a guy she is actually attracted to and settled for you out of desperation.
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Hello, I'm one of the lucky ones that found a girl that appreciates me for who I am. However, some girls in the past never even gave me a chance because I was "too nice." It was like a disease that girls were scared of lol. Anyways, out of curiosity, why do some girls prefer bad guys over good guys? Is it because us nice guys are considered safe and boring or something else? Thanks Being a jerk can earn some points, but looks is much more powerful. My best bud is a good looking guy and like the nicest guy in the world. He's not really had any trouble getting women. He probably could have done a little better if he was more of a jerk. But he did plenty well without it.
HuffmanMontana Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 He probably could have done a little better if he was more of a jerk. But he did plenty well without it. I whole heartedly disagree. Women who go for jerks have unresolved issues. Sure, some are gorgeous but they are unhappy and there is nothing more unattractive than a doormat. A woman with self respect will not fall for a jerk unless she is knowingly only looking for a good time and knows the jerk will be more than accommodating to give her attention.
BeholdtheMan Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Hello, I'm one of the lucky ones that found a girl that appreciates me for who I am. However, some girls in the past never even gave me a chance because I was "too nice." It was like a disease that girls were scared of lol. Anyways, out of curiosity, why do some girls prefer bad guys over good guys? Is it because us nice guys are considered safe and boring or something else? Thanks Women don't prefer "bad" guys to "good" guys Women prefer: strong guys to weak guys (I'm not just talking physical strength, but mental strength, which is arguable even more attractive) exciting guys to boring guys confident guys to timid guys passionate guys to apathetic guys ...see where this is going? Your definition of "good" guy is a low-confidence, boring, apathetic, overly polite, timid yes-man. Yes, most women would prefer an exciting adventurous "bad boy" to the above. However you can also be exciting, confident, passionate, strong without being a womaniser. If you can pull this off, you're what I call "a real catch" 12
USMCHokie Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I'm one of the lucky ones that found a girl that appreciates me for who I am. Is it possible that this girl has realized that a "bad boy" doesn't want her, so she'll take what she can get...? 1
Estate Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Hello, I'm one of the lucky ones that found a girl that appreciates me for who I am. However, some girls in the past never even gave me a chance because I was "too nice." It was like a disease that girls were scared of lol. Anyways, out of curiosity, why do some girls prefer bad guys over good guys? Is it because us nice guys are considered safe and boring or something else? Thanks It's not like every guy falls under one of 2 polar opposite categories. "Nice guys" are boring, lame, needy, supplicative, they need taking care of, they almost act like the woman in the relationship. "Bad boys" are just jerks... they sometimes provide girls with emotions based on excitement and unpredictability but in the end leave her in tears and this works out for nobody either. Then there is just being "a man"... you are the MAN of the relationship, you don't need anyone taking care of you... you lead a good life, you are chivalrous, you are "nice" when you need to be but "strong" when appropriate. You lead the relationship and you let her be her own woman but she knows you are there to protect her should she ever feel the need. Be "a man", not either of the other two. Lastly... if you're asking what types of girls get with "nice guys", usually pretty low quality, girls with problems or girls most men would not date. They prey on weak men. 1
Author Somethngcreative Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 Haha maybe? I don't know, it took a lot of effort to win her over . It wasn't that easy ya know.
Author Somethngcreative Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 Women don't prefer "bad" guys to "good" guys Women prefer: strong guys to weak guys (I'm not just talking physical strength, but mental strength, which is arguable even more attractive) exciting guys to boring guys confident guys to timid guys passionate guys to apathetic guys ...see where this is going? Your definition of "good" guy is a low-confidence, boring, apathetic, overly polite, timid yes-man. Yes, most women would prefer an exciting adventurous "bad boy" to the above. However you can also be exciting, confident, passionate, strong without being a womaniser. If you can pull this off, you're what I call "a real catch" I think this explains it all. You can be a nice guy without being whipped or being a doormat. I always said, when I got rejected,if they don't like me it's their loss.
USMCHokie Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Haha maybe? I don't know, it took a lot of effort to win her over . It wasn't that easy ya know. On a somewhat related note, how do you all feel about having to "win someone over"...? Shouldn't it be easier than that...?
Author Somethngcreative Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 On a somewhat related note, how do you all feel about having to "win someone over"...? Shouldn't it be easier than that...? Not sure what you're asking but nah a girl has to have high standards. No girl on her right mind is going to just start a relationship with some random guy and they shouldn't. For me, I actually thought I had no chance to be hers but I was clueless since she felt the same about me too but her mind was telling her something diff. I had to convince her that her heart mattered more than her mind, and it took 3 years!
carhill Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Aren't we all pretty much 'random' until we get to know each other? IMO, men are no more or less 'random' than women are. IME, most girls do not avoid good guys. Most good guys I've known in life have been and/or are married and have families. Perhaps it's different with the younger generations. The key IMO is that the 'good guy' needs to have the requisite social skill set to present his 'good guy-ness' to a woman (or women in general) in a way she finds attractive. If that doesn't occur, he's still a good guy, but alone. Nothing wrong with that. 2
USMCHokie Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Not sure what you're asking but nah a girl has to have high standards. No girl on her right mind is going to just start a relationship with some random guy and they shouldn't. For me, I actually thought I had no chance to be hers but I was clueless since she felt the same about me too but her mind was telling her something diff. I had to convince her that her heart mattered more than her mind, and it took 3 years! This always sounds fishy to me...and it's consistent with your thread topic about "good guys"... Depending on your age, it could mean that she's just dating you until she finds the bad boy she is looking for... But I merely speculate...
KungFuJoe Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Making you wait three years doesn't mean she has high standards. It means all other options were exhausted. 4
Author Somethngcreative Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 This always sounds fishy to me...and it's consistent with your thread topic about "good guys"... Depending on your age, it could mean that she's just dating you until she finds the bad boy she is looking for... But I merely speculate... I see what you mean but not her, she's been faithful in her past relationships and I would know because she came to me whenever there was a problem. Long story short, I thought I wasn't good enough for her and she thought she wasn't good enough for me so nothing ever happened between us until I confessed to her.
KungFuJoe Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I see what you mean but not her, she's been faithful in her past relationships and I would know because she came to me whenever there was a problem. Long story short, I thought I wasn't good enough for her and she thought she wasn't good enough for me so nothing ever happened between us until I confessed to her. Are you saying you confessed to her and THEN it took 3 years for her to be with you...or that you knew her for 3 years and then you confessed and then a relationship started immediately afterwards?
Author Somethngcreative Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 Are you saying you confessed to her and THEN it took 3 years for her to be with you...or that you knew her for 3 years and then you confessed and then a relationship started immediately afterwards? Knew her for 3 years, confessed and relationship afterwards.
KungFuJoe Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Knew her for 3 years, confessed and relationship afterwards. Well that's different. So why the line about having to "convince her" and "it took three years"?
USMCHokie Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Well that's different. So why the line about having to "convince her" and "it took three years"? And why would it take convincing if she felt the same way about you...?
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