Author lamaga Posted May 11, 2013 Author Posted May 11, 2013 (edited) I think two weeks is way too soon to bring up exclusivity. (Of course, I also think it is too soon for sex, but what do I know?). Be careful in your wording about this if you choose to bring it up. Commitment talk too soon can spook some guys, even when you are merely trying to establish that they aren't out sleeping with the entire city. I've never had success when I was the one to bring up exclusivity first. If the man isn't bringing it up, there is a reason. I always wait for the guy to bring it up. Is there a reason why you invited him to sleep over at your house so soon? That just seems like a recipe for disaster to me. I'm curious too, and agree. I'd suggest changing plans so that you don't wind up back at your place. I invited him over because I don't like going to the city that much, figured it was his turn to put some effort into seeing me (it's an hour train ride and costs 16 bucks back and forth and is fairly difficult to get here, and he took the trip, so that showed me that he was making an effort). The time we spent was really great. It was a good 4th date! We drank wine and watched a movie and, of course, made out. I told him, when things got hot, that I don't really like to share people I am intimate with. He said that he is not seeing anybody else, he's busy with his dissertation and that when he met me he was surprised that it even happened, and that he was way too much into me than wanting to see other people . He said he would only do whatever it is I want to do. I told him that I wanted to enjoy what he have right now and see where it goes from there. He was very cuddly all night and in the morning we had breakfast together and took a long walk. We went to my parents' house and hung out there for a bit (he briefly met my parents, but they are hippies, like his parents are, and there wasn't any pressure, it was a funny encounter). Again, amazing conversations, stimulating, smart, happy. In the end, when I brought him to the train tonight, he told me he wanted to see me next week, preferably for his birthday. I said, I'd see what I can do (since I have my friend visiting, and it would be the 3 of us hanging out). Overall, I was very subtle and reserved and tried to see what moves he would make. He told me he had feelings for me and that he was happy he came to visit (many compliments, like, how smart I am, how intellectually stimulating and beautiful and so on). I said "I look forward to date number 5!" and he said "Well, feels like date 7 or 8", and I said "yeah, it does", and he said "I think at some point you just stop counting and then, it's something else..." I think he was maybe suggesting that we are getting pretty close by now? Anyway, I think I did everything right and looking forward to how this 'thing' we have will progress. It's going into an interesting direction, it seems.. Edited May 11, 2013 by lamaga
BluEyeL Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Sounds great! Glad there were no problems, and hope it keeps progressing!
Cutiepie1976 Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Sounds like a perfect date! Enjoy date #5...or 8.
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