katala Posted September 25, 2004 Posted September 25, 2004 hello i'm new here and was hoping if i could find some help to my situation. I'm 21 years old and have been with my boyfriend (23) for a year and three months. We spent every single day together from when we met to when we "went on a break" or "broke up". We kept telling each other that we should hangout less but always went back to hanging out everyday together. We became so close and so comfortable with each other and even in passing joked about what if we got married or had kids. Five days a ago he told me that he wanted space to himself. He is a type of person who likes to write alot alone and is in grad school and he hasnt had too much alone time because of me. He tells me that he loves me but is confused as to if he's still in love with me or if the feelings turned to friendship and that he's been thinking for the past couple of weeks about it. We talked the first couple of days after the break because i was upset but now its been two days without talking and he said he'd call in a few more to see how everything is.i'm hoping because we hungout so much that he never had time to miss me and thats what he needs now. Can you fall back in love if thats the case? I need help with this one because i miss him so much and i hope he does as well, because i dont know what made him question this. Another thing that hurt is that he doesnt want to say i love you when we say bye because he doesnt think its riight right now. well, thanks for reading..i hope someone can help
Just Visiting Posted September 26, 2004 Posted September 26, 2004 I think that this time apart is good for both of you. It gives you time to re-establish yourselves as individuals. The problem with us women is that we are willing to give up EVERYTHING and ANYTHING for our object of love and affection. There are limits though. And u have to know WHEN it is time to say Stop. It sounds like you are getting to that edge. You can still love someone, and not like them. If that makes any sense..lol. But this guy clearly needs to get his priorities straight. Move on.
seductress989 Posted September 26, 2004 Posted September 26, 2004 I went through the same thing with my ex. We dated almost a year and a half. We started out seeing each other every day and that just ruined things. He ended up wanting his "space" and not saying I love you at before we said goodbye. I finally got to the end of my rope and ended things. A good relationship does need space but not all the time. If I were you, I would not contact him until he contacted me first. You need to let him wonder and worry a little bit. It doesn't sound like he's making you #1 in his life so don't make him #1 in yours. Give him his "space" and have fun while you're doing it.
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