Confusia1 Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 Okay, so I met this girl and I've been lying a little bit. Well, I haven't actually lied about much to be honest, but if she finds out about my situation, which she may soon, then she might be turned off. I am 25, still live with my father and I don't drive a car. I have not mentioned this at all to her. I really don't want her finding out this about me, otherwise it might turn her off altogether. What do I do?
Author Confusia1 Posted May 9, 2013 Author Posted May 9, 2013 why do you live with your father? Because I live in UK and it's not cheap for renting in my area. I have no one to move out with either. I also have no idea what I want to do career wise, so I am have been working part time as that's all that is available at the moment. I am considering returning to education, but I'm really not sure what I want to do right now. Also, I suffered with depression and anxiety for 3/4 years, lost motivation to do anything and sh** just went downhill from there.
Xinreeki Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 How long have you known her for? As clearly you can't keep this a secret from her indefinitely. Eventually she is going to find out. In which case its better if you tell her yourself, rather than she finds out some other way. And better sooner rather than later, if you've already known each other awhile? Living with family and not owning a car isn't so bad really. She may be disappointed I guess, but if she really likes you for you, then I'm sure she'll be understanding and still give you a chance. And if it turns out that it does send her running, then clearly she isn't the type of person you want in your life anyway. You want someone who cares about you for you, and who is at the very least, going to give you a chance.
Ninjainpajamas Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 You're 25, it's not unheard of, especially on hard times. Some people are doing really well, other people are struggling in general right now. Just be honest with her about your situation, don't be insecure about it and don't make it out to be a big deal. However I would strongly suggest you get back into school or go to school for a trade so you can have a direction so that you can change your situation in the future. As you enter your late 20's and 30's it's going to be much more important to many women, especially those looking to settle down. Not that a lot of guys care what women want, they just sleep with them while she thinks she's chasing a man with "potential" but there's no drawback to having yourself put together, not for anyone, including yourself....whatever you may choose. You should really be investing in yourself right now the most. 1
Author Confusia1 Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 You're 25, it's not unheard of, especially on hard times. Some people are doing really well, other people are struggling in general right now. Just be honest with her about your situation, don't be insecure about it and don't make it out to be a big deal. However I would strongly suggest you get back into school or go to school for a trade so you can have a direction so that you can change your situation in the future. As you enter your late 20's and 30's it's going to be much more important to many women, especially those looking to settle down. Not that a lot of guys care what women want, they just sleep with them while she thinks she's chasing a man with "potential" but there's no drawback to having yourself put together, not for anyone, including yourself....whatever you may choose. You should really be investing in yourself right now the most. Yeah, I agree with what you're saying. The thing is, I don't think I want to get married or have kids. It will be hard finding a girl who doesn't want this, but I'm sure there might be someone. I am not entirely ruling children out, but I certainly don't really want to get married. It is definitely frustrating though. Do younger girls really care so much about these things? Don't get me wrong though, I actually want to improve my situation. I am not someone who can just sit and live a boring life with just one career route in mind.
crederer Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I'm 25 and live with my dad as well. i was on my own for the last 7 years, broke up with the girlfriend and due to not being able to afford my own place I had to move back home. I am a little self concious about it as well. I have a good job and I am hoping to move out once I get back on my feet. The right girl for you will be understanding of your situation. I think the "living at home" thing bothers women when it's due to lack of motivation. At least, that's what I tell myself.
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