Louleigh80 Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 I'm really confused!! I dated a man for a month, we were talking for a month before that, & I really started liking him. We arranged to go out again, but the weather was bad, sobs said we should re arrange, but he never said specifically when we should go. Then he asked if I'd meet him I said I would, but then he stopped texting. Since then I've sent a few flirty messages, but he's clearly lost interest. I'm trying my best to get over him, but I see him 3/4 times a week. This week I've decided just to stop speaking to him when I see him. So this morning he said hi & I just smiled & walked off. If he sees me he will be really friendly, upbeat and chatty & it kills me! I've deleted all his messages, which were amazing, & I really am trying to move on. But Everytime I think I'm doing ok, he will get my hopes up again. (Tuesday we sat talking for an hour!) He's also clearly messaging other people on social networking as he's on there all the time, when he never used it before. I know he's not interested, but I don't know why he's letting me think there's still a chance for us?
CelticGibson Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 Actions speak louder than words. Remember this when you think of the things he said to you. His actions are in-congruent with his words therefore you should accept that he's just not interested. Once you do this, you can accept that there is no chance and there won't be. I know it's hard to want someone who doesn't want you but you have to accept it. I would go No Contact from here on in and if you bump into him, just a quick hello and then walk away. You can't spend time with him knowing how you feel or you won't be able to move on. Time to start healing now...
TaraMaiden Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 .....I don't know why he's letting me think there's still a chance for us? When has he said this to you? What did he actually say? Or are you just interpreting his actions as 'still a chance', when in all probability he's just playing the field and keeping you on a hook? If you want to pursue this guy, tell him/ask him where you're at. Be clear with your impressions... If on the other hand, your instincts tell you this is a no-hoper and you're just possibly one of many - then cut him off and don't engage in chit-chat. Don't get snagged into talking for an hour.... just cut him off, and let him know - through your Actions (very telling things, Actions) - that you're not part of the shooting gallery and a sitting duck.
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