BetheButterfly Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 I disagree with my own advice. But if she insists on revenge....that's the only idea I got. Please please please OP don't go the way of revenge. It's possible someday he will experience what you are experiencing right now, but please for your own sake please just let him and the bitterness go.
CelticGibson Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 Revenge is a consequence of negative emotions, like jealousy. It eats away at you and you are the one who ultimately suffers in the end. The best way to deal with this is to just move on and be the best you can be for you. He's just a guy, yes you have feelings and he hurt you but in a year you will look back and wonder why you wasted so much mental energy on this one guy. Time to move on and let him go his own way. Do what's best for you now.
tbf Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 Consider the amount of time, life and emotional energy you've already and continue to waste on him. Now imagine feeling relaxed, content and serene. Which state of being makes you happier? Yeah, thought so. Now live it. Let the anger and bitterness go. He's not worth your emotion. 1
Chi townD Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 So now I'm the irrational in the story ?? All I ask was the best way to make him pay what he did to me , But it seems that nobody it's been in my shoes Not quite sure what you're asking... Do you want to videotape yourself having sex with some other dude and mail it to him with a note that states, "Thanks but no thanks! As you can see, I can get others to take care of me in that department." Girl, the best revenge you can get is to lead a DAMN good life. Right now, he still thinks that he has some kind of power over you. He thinks that you're sooo head over heels in love with him that you'll do about ANYTHING to keep him in your life in some way. What he's asking for is selfish and cruel. You're better than that. You DESERVE better than that. Sex should be the ultimate way you can communicate your love for each other using your bodies. He doesn't love you. Therefore, he only views you as a sex toy and nothing more. I promise you that there is a guy out there that is going to love you for who you are. A guy that is going to respect your boundries and will cherish the opportunity to be with you when you're ready and won't push you (well, not TOO much...we are guys after all) into doing something that you're not comfortable with. So, the next time he calls let it go to voicemail. The next time he texts something about him being horny and wanting to sleep with you, mail him a blow up doll.
Author Ale khun Posted May 9, 2013 Author Posted May 9, 2013 I knew that sharing my experience here it was going to be useful , now I get it I really do . There's no way that I can make him feel stupid , betrayed , used or unhappy because he just doesn't love me its that easy !! Maybe he will feel this way one day with someone he really cares for . I'm not wishing him or anyone this because it really hurts and it sucks to feel sad and unhappy for someone who clearly its not the right person for me . I know I need to move on and do my life but right now I'm still in the process of getting my life together I'm not afraid of saying that I'm emotionally devastated and like someone said before on a few months I will be laughing about this . Thank you all of you . Besos
Author Ale khun Posted May 9, 2013 Author Posted May 9, 2013 Thank you BethButterfly ! For sharing your story with me and your great way of seeing things !!
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