Sunshine87 Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 Hello, What does it mean to you if someone ( a guy) describes you as "Good looking"? Is that a compliment or a vague way to describe someone you don't really believe is "beautiful" or "pretty"? Opinions?
soccerrprp Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 (edited) Hello, What does it mean to you if someone ( a guy) describes you as "Good looking"? Is that a compliment or a vague way to describe someone you don't really believe is "beautiful" or "pretty"? Opinions? In what context did he say this? What if he said you were attractive? That's even more uncertain, wouldn't you say? I don't know, I would take it as a compliment unless you feel you deserve better. Some guys use good... did he emphasize GOOD? That makes a difference too. I've told women: "You are GOOD looking!:)" Meaning....you are very attractive! Did he have a big grin on his face when he said it. Did he continue looking into your face? Does he still want to see you? Are you still dating? I don't know. I guess women have a better idea if "good" is good enough. Edited May 9, 2013 by soccerrprp
Ed the 3rd Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 Pretty and beautiful sometimes sound a little cliche. Assuming he wasn't sarcastic he did mean to compliment you.
Estate Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 Hello, What does it mean to you if someone ( a guy) describes you as "Good looking"? Is that a compliment or a vague way to describe someone you don't really believe is "beautiful" or "pretty"? Opinions? Oh for crap sake.... you can't say anything to some women 9
clia Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 Is this a serious question? No, you shouldn't be offended. Yes, he was complimenting you. Yes, you are way overanalyzing things. 2
salparadise Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 What does it mean to you if someone ( a guy) describes you as "Good looking"? Is that a compliment or a vague way to describe someone you don't really believe is "beautiful" or "pretty"? Opinions? It is hard to interpret without some context, but I'd say you take it as a compliment unless it was served up as an underhanded slight of some sort. Understand that this is dangerous territory for men. Women have various reactions to being complimented. Some will be offended that you're taking the liberty of assessing their appearance without permission, some will think you're just using flattery to try and get in their pants, some will label you as lecherous, some will think you didn't wax poetic enough... apparently this is you. Some will be so sincerely flattered that they immediately determine that they must be out of your league, or that you present no challenge whatsoever, and poof, they're gone. The best way to navigate this maze is to compliment something very specific and avoid generalizations. This gives them something to feel good about, and also leaves something for them to wonder about. If the specific compliment is about her ass or tits, I'm probably not taking her seriously.
SmileFace Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 Things like this make me thankful I am not a lesbian. 1
Mr_Flay Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 (edited) In some cultures, it is considered a grave offense. When, during the failed peace negotiations preceding the Battle of Many Impalings, Chief Xamu of the bloodthirsty Harari tribe said to Chief Rak'shel of the child-eating Yenochians that he was "good-looking", he actually meant: "your severed head would look good impaled on an altar to our Lord of Carnage, surrounded by pools of blood and limbs of your fallen guards." So yes, I would immediately cut all contact with this guy if I were you. Edited May 9, 2013 by Mr_Flay 5
fortyninethousand322 Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 One time, a friend's girlfriend said I had really big muscles. That was the most hurtful thing anyone ever said to me. I felt like crying (and eventually went to the bathroom and did so). Today is opposite day right?... 3
Cutiepie1976 Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 So sad when even simple compliments trigger insecurity. 2
crederer Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 It would have been a much better compliment if he said "girl, brush yo teeth!"
todreaminblue Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 In some cultures, it is considered a grave offense. When, during the failed peace negotiations preceding the Battle of Many Impalings, Chief Xamu of the bloodthirsty Harari tribe said to Chief Rak'shel of the child-eating Yenochians that he was "good-looking", he actually meant: "your severed head would look good impaled on an altar to our Lord of Carnage, surrounded by pools of blood and limbs of your fallen guards." So yes, I would immediately cut all contact with this guy if I were you. yAAAAAAAAAAAAAY opposite day....lol...ur funny
todreaminblue Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 One time, a friend's girlfriend said I had really big muscles. That was the most hurtful thing anyone ever said to me. I felt like crying (and eventually went to the bathroom and did so). Today is opposite day right?... dont ya just love it.....you are right its opposite day here today...:bunny: these are actually crocodiles...deb
Drseussgrrl Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 One time a dude told me he liked how clean my house was. I assumed that he meant he couldn't wait to have me move in and fold his laundry. NEXT
todreaminblue Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 One time a dude told me he liked how clean my house was. I assumed that he meant he couldn't wait to have me move in and fold his laundry. NEXT lol..............deb
Author Sunshine87 Posted May 9, 2013 Author Posted May 9, 2013 LMAO!!!! Okay guys, thanks for the input......the sarcastic ones included. They made me laugh out loud. I didn't mean to sound ditsy but I was just wondering. "Goodlooking" sounded so vague....and he KEEPS saying it. He goes "oh, you're intelligent, youre hardworking and you're Goodlooking"....and I'm thinking to myself "uhh okay". Lol. First few times he saw me, he said I was "Beautiful". Since then it's been "Goodlooking". Anyway, I am aware that a good personality and decent character are the most important things so I will focus on improving that.
coltsfan1 Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 Hello, What does it mean to you if someone ( a guy) describes you as "Good looking"? Is that a compliment or a vague way to describe someone you don't really believe is "beautiful" or "pretty"? Opinions? Seriously..... Wow
Author Sunshine87 Posted May 9, 2013 Author Posted May 9, 2013 Lol, you're quite the vain one aren't you Lol on the contrary, far from it. Just a little over-analytical sometimes.
sillyanswer Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 Hello, What does it mean to you if someone ( a guy) describes you as "Good looking"? Is that a compliment or a vague way to describe someone you don't really believe is "beautiful" or "pretty"? Opinions? What's your opinion on it?
ltjg45 Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 This is why I keep my mouth shut and not bother with these compliments. The last thing I need right now is more potential enemies.
ltjg45 Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 Well, I had 2 people call me "good-looking" but those came from women I wouldn't date so I didn't know what to make of it. I just decided not to give it any meaning and move on. What good would it be to call me "handsome" if it comes from a woman I rather run away from rather to have a conversation with? So, yeah, I can see why people would take offense from it. That means little to nothing in the end if I don't even think, at the least, neutral about you.
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