RelentlessPineapple Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 I don't think I've ever been this miserable before in my life. I just got out of a year-and-a-half relationship with a girl who I thought was the "one." First of all, I'm 21 years old and I know that I'm considered young, but I consider myself to be very mature and independent for my age. I've got a full-time job, my own place and I'm in college. Anyways, my ex-gf was a model, but she is incredibly insecure and no matter what I did, it just never seemed like it was good enough. At one point, she didn't have anywhere to go, she fell out with her parents at the time and we would sometimes get into petty arguments over things that you'd consider to be trivial. Anyways, she's the type of girl that would avoid conversation whenever there was something important we'd need to talk about (usually our relationship), and while she would be feeling down, she was so vulnerable to the point where she actually started flirting with my coworker. She never tried to fix things between us, even though I've been trying and now she's gotten close to him at this point and basically ran away from our relationship, even though I stood by her side during her times of need. I just feel so used right now and confused. Growing up, I've always been told to treat women right, but now I just don't know. Now, I'm not sure how I should treat anyone, because I'm afraid that i'll be taken advantage of. I guess it's true that good guys finish last. 1
FailedFirstLove Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 She seems like she'a just immature. But it's great if you are mature and wantig to treat a girl right. There would be a lot of girls out there who would appreciate this quality in you.
Author RelentlessPineapple Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 That's what I'm thinking at this point, but I just don't know what to do at this point. I don't want her back at all, but I just can't get her out of my head. Despite all that I did for her, it just sucks that she's happy and doesn't even have a hint of remorse after everything. 1
OwlSoul Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I'm not sure how I should treat anyone, because I'm afraid that i'll be taken advantage of. I guess it's true that good guys finish last. Treating good someone so that you'd be treated the same works for ordinary non-romantic relationships perfectly. But in a relationship it is not only the way how you treat the person, but by who you are. We have strong sexual instincts which forces us to find the best mate.
Author RelentlessPineapple Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 Yeah, i realize that's how a lot of girls my age are...but I just don't know what to do. I could do the same thing and just have fling after fling, but I'd hate myself at the end of the day.
Author RelentlessPineapple Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 Yeah, it's funny because if I were the one who did this, I'd be looked at like I was a monster. Any advice on how to get past this? I don't know what to do at this point, because I just started a new job a couple days ago and I don't know anyone yet.
LoveB86 Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 she had the looks, but not the heart and communication. Good thing she is gone... who knows what might be going on in her head. Obviously, she avoids talking things out.. That's not someone that can handle a mature guy whose ready to settle down, get married and have children. Be patient, that ONE special girl somewhere will be worth it in the end for you. I appreciate your mature mindset at a young age. Don't let the society and relationships ruin that special quality about yourself.
Author RelentlessPineapple Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 Hm, just noticed the typo in the thread title. I'm really glad I came across this website and I appreciate the support I'm getting. I know I can't assume all women are the same after one bad relationship, but that's honestly how I feel at this point. Growing up, I've never actually hated anyone and I know it's wrong of me to feel this way, but I do feel some resentment towards my ex. Is there anything I could do to stop feeling this way?
CelticGibson Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 From the description of her that you posted, she sounds like she's emotionally immature. You need to let this one go Pineapple. Feeling resentment is part of the healing process. We all get to the anger stage after the pleading and begging (the bargaining stage) doesn't work. This won't last, however, and you will move into the acceptance stage if you disconnect and go No Contact.
Author RelentlessPineapple Posted May 11, 2013 Author Posted May 11, 2013 This won't last, however, and you will move into the acceptance stage if you disconnect and go No Contact. Yeah, it's been a couple days now since this all happened. I've actually blocked her at this point, but I can't seem to get her off my mind no matter how busy I keep myself.
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