Just venting a bit

[jf2good]

Just stressed and I shouldn't be. So want somewhere to complain so you can ignore my post. Been sick all day, got sick drinking last night, drank too fast, but that shouldn't have made me sick as I feel as I think it is stress combined with everything. No I don't have an alcoholic problem as I don't drink that much and don't binge drink, and don't abuse drugs. All of which probably would be a good escape from the stress haha.

 

I really shouldn't be so stressed, but the wife being nice to me and now saying she doesn't want to divorce is like AGGGGHHHH!!!! inside of me. She filed for divorce but had lawyers problems, she basically went psychotic on me over her lawyer screwing up everything. So I fixed everything and then she is like how can I live without you as you fix everything.

 

My wife blames me for us needing to break up. I am to blame for my share of problems but not everything. She says everything will be nice once the kids graduate from college and our last one moves away. She says she will have no stress and will be nice and we can do things together. I just can't believe that. I am waiting for her next blow-up. She always said I need counseling, blames her anger on me, of course she wouldn't go to counseling for herself, she is always right.

 

Basically my wife is getting what she wants in the divorce, way more than if we went to a judge. I don't want to fight even if I am getting screwed, I just want to move on. Still my wife is insecure about her financial future because I am the one who made the majority of the money and worked, while she only worked part time when she did. She over exaggerates her role as a mother of of our 2 kids. Sure she did more housekeeping than I did, but duh she wasn't working most of the time or only part time. She will bring up things like saying that she dropped the kids of to school everyday like that was so hard, forgetting that I probably dropped them off and picked them up nearly as much as she did. Why bring this up at all, this is just normal parts of parenting, nothing to keep score of.

 

During this divorce process my wife would bring up one thing at a time and I would agree to it, but there was always some give and take. But she remembers it one side of course, so she goes and grabs some knives and starts waving them around screaming just kill me if I didn't agree to her demands. So this back and forth between lunatic and being nice is driving me crazy.

 

I could go on and on, but I need to get some sleep, hopefully.

[cozycottagelg]

I don't really know your whole situation, and am certainly no expert as I'm having issues myself. But from a wife perspective, I think her bringing up the things that she did for the kids, is her way of justifying her behavior. I often do the same thing...