kool Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 So, my ex and I have been broken up for over a month now. I have tried sending a few messages saying something like I hope you are doing well, hopefully we can be friends again, but she will not reply to me. How can I get her break her no contact. I have some important things I need to tell her. Cheers.
Dragi3169 Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Nothing man . It sucks but you got to move on. Keep moving forward
CompleteFailure Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 "I understand what I've done is probably unforgivable. You must have felt so hurt and betrayed by my words. I get that you need to stay NC in order to heal faster and/or punish me emotionally but I wanted to let you know that I never cheated on you during our break despite what anyone says and I really am sorry for any pain I've caused you. I'd like to have a more mature conversation with you if/whenever you'd be ready or willing." 3
AKisBaked Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 What is the so "important" things you need to ask your ex? I don't think there is really anything to say at this point. You gotta move on..
BustedUpInside Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I think a better thing would be to ask yourself why you waited so long to tell your ex things that were so "important". Are you just looking for an excuse to remain in contact? If so, then it is probably a better idea to just let it go and don't worry about it. If these issues were so important then she would probably have brought them up before. But maybe I am wrong. Maybe what you need to tell her really is extremely important. Why are you hesitating then? Why does she need to contact you first? I am pretty sure that you know the answer. You just want to keep finding reasons to talk to her so that she won't forget you and how much you are still intertwined in her life. My advice is to just let it go. If she has something to say about important things, then she will reach out on her own without you needing to do anything. 1
TearyEyedPride Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I don't think anything you could possibly say to her right now will be more "important" than her healing, protecting her own heart and moving on with her life. If it were... it wouldn't have been an afterthought after an assortment of breadcrumbs. You broke up with her, and she's choosing to live on just fine without you. Please be a gentleman and let her.
crederer Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Did you break up with her or she you? I was in a similar situation, (dumpee) and i just straight up told her I had some things I'd like to say and I'd appreciate it if she gave me that opportunity. She responded with "of course, I'm available at X day we can meet at X place". I said what I had to say and I felt a lot better after. I have an old thread about it from about a month back if you are interested.
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