Jimmysupa Posted September 25, 2004 Posted September 25, 2004 I hope this doesn't sound to pathetic or needy, but this is a serious problem I face, and though I can intellecutually deal with it, I seem to be too much of a coward to deal with it on a sincerely emotional level. So, in the hope of dealing with the shortcomings that I have, I would like to solicite advice from anyone who has ever been were I am before. I am a 20 something male, pretty good looking, with a great job. I am great with children (godfather to some) and the best friend of most every woman I meet. My problem is, I don't just want to be best friends. The simple question is (without going into me sounding like a whiney bastard), I have come to grips with the fact that I will never be a casanova (and honestly, that doesn't bother me) I am way to concerned about the feeling of those around me to ever be a (pardon my french) pussy chaser. I would love to find a girl who has as dirty a mind as I and would love to be with me. However, I would not sacrifice myself for a woman. So, in the end, am I hoping for something that doesn't exisist, or am I just looking in the wrong place.......to all that answer, thank you. Supa Fly
moimeme Posted September 25, 2004 Posted September 25, 2004 It depends. How dirty a mind do you have and what do you mean by I would not sacrifice myself for a woman.?
tokyo Posted September 25, 2004 Posted September 25, 2004 I don´t get your problem really..... There are certainly girls who don´t want to date a casanova.
Mr Spock Posted September 25, 2004 Posted September 25, 2004 Only weenies get stuck into the "best friend" category by multiple women-the kind she'd only ever sleep with if extremely intoxicated. Are you a weenie? If you're not, stop acting like a best friend if you want more. It's deceitful. Be the man women want to date-not their gay friend. There is nothing wrong with being a p*ssy chaser-just as long as you're honest about it. I think getting laid will HELP your cause. Go forth!!! Just remember the wise words of Parliment "Why must I be like that? Why must I chase the cat? Nothing but the dog in me....."
Brooklyn8503 Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 i'm currently in a relationship with a man under the same circumstances you are in. i've had people tell me he's gay. he's NOT. we both have dirty, twisted, and sick minds but it's just between the two of us. he's the only guy i've ever been with so i really don't have anything to compare him with sexually but he's doesn't have the biggest penis in the world. i know that he cares about me so much and we're in love and that's all i need from him. he's kind, caring, and sensitive (hard to find in a guy). we get our kicks from other stuff besides sex. don't fret your problem. you just need time to find the right girl. it will take time but don't give up. you'll know when you've found her.
Zain Mastron Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 I'm exactly the same as you Jimmysupa. It's scary! But yeah, I have the same problems. WIth mine however, I think it is to do with my looks. I have SOOOO many girls as friends, and while I don't complain as they are all beautiful creatures (not only in looks but personality as well), I always hope for more from new girls I met, but I always end up just being their friend. I got no helpful advice, as I'm in the same boat!
Pookette Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Most women have varying degrees of dirty-mindedness. But as we don't know just how dirty you are, I'm not sure how to respond. Are you talking about a little Catholic schoolgirl outfit, or are you talking about whips and chains and stuff? Might be harder to find the latter, I think. Does the girl in question HAVE to have a dirty mind? Great name, BTW.
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