Keenly Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I get involved in other peoples lives when I see one person unjustly taking advantage of and doing wrong to another person. I stand up for the victim. I don't walk past and silently allow an injustice to be committed without speaking up. You do not have the freedom to "live you life the way you wish." You may not defraud your wife. And if you do, other people with a conscience should speak up and tell her. If you don't say anything, then you are guilty too. People actually do get to live how they want. Happens everyday. Sorry you don't agree with it, but saying it out isn't going to make it go away. Its impossible to go through life without hurting or disappointing people .
SoleMate Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Why the insistence on anonymity? Anonymous exposure without pictures does little or nothing to protect the wife; the husband will just say, "See, a crazy jealous idiot is making stuff up for no reason". The only way to truly inform and protect the W is by providing a believeable report that does not stink of crankery. So you must use your real identity and provide pure facts and witness, ONLY. No editorializing or advice, just the facts. If you won't use your name, don't waste your time for no purpose. 1
candie13 Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Its impossible to go through life without hurting or disappointing people . there's a huge difference between doing so purposely or un-purposely. The difference between having a conscience and listening to it.
hppr Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 (edited) I have, the guy owed me a few hundred and wouldn't pay up, was trying very hard to avoid me etc. Eventually I ran into him at a bar with a girl that wasn't his wife, all friendly and smiles with me. I pretty much took all the money he had on him at the time, he promised to pay the rest that week and of course flaked on me. So I called up his wife and tattled on him. Figured it was worth the 250 he still owed me. Personally, I don't have any respect for guys that screw around on their wives and kids. Maybe if the wife is an utter shrew, fine, LEAVE HER and THEN get the girlfriend. Something just wrong about doing it within the confines of a marriage. Same goes for women that screw around with their husbands. I always see a double standard when this comes up, especially with women thinking it's funny if the husband is a doof and the boyfriend is hot, I can't stand that stuff either. Edited May 17, 2013 by hppr
Els Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 I think an appropriate answer for most cases is "Do as you would like others to do unto you". In this case, possibly even more accurate. I think that if you were in the wife's shoes, you would want to know. If you were in the man's shoes and were genuinely doing nothing wrong (if you were in an open R, for instance), I presume you would see nothing wrong with your wife knowing, either. It is important to ensure that you only offer the facts, and not argue for them. Let them know what you saw, and leave it at that. If the wife has an explanation for it or if she doesn't believe you, leave it be. FWIW, I have never been cheated on in the past.
MissBee Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 That's an unfair analogy. Two people making a decision together are not at gunpoint. I think people often miss what an analogy is comparing. Most times the objections I see people make against analogy shows that they don't know what an analogy is supposed to do and miss entirely what aspects of the analogy speak to the situation at hand. She wasn't comparing gunpoint to choosing to be in an affair. The analogy is comparing something WRONG being done to someone else and other people choosing to step in or not under the premise that it isn't their business. That's the point of the analogy....it wasn't to compare robbery to As or gunpoint to decisions to be together. Anyway: Venus, since it seems you barely know these people, it's more awkward to tell. It wouldn't be wrong if you decided to, simply more awkward. 1
Eggplant Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 And what should I write in that email so she can start investigating?Simply a description of what you saw.
Author venuss Posted May 21, 2013 Author Posted May 21, 2013 Just so you all know..I haven't done anything about it yet!!! So 2 things pending with me. 1. Contact my ex 2. Write email to this lady about her H Probably, both are bad ideas 'complications'
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