Be good to get a male point of view ... Why do the want to get around

[Flutterbyme]

Okay so before I met my now ex he had a few one night stands...

He said they were awful and had no connection and didn't even .. Well you know what.

 

When he met me he said it felt so good and connected and he could never do the one night stand thing again the girls are all easy and cheap.

 

Now he's left me to fulfill a single free life no doubt doing the one night stand thing again- amazing!

Edited May 8, 2013 by Flutterbyme

[will1988]

A lot of men, but not all men, abide by the philosophy of "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" Meaning, why have a meaningful relationship which does involve sex with one woman, when you can have no attachments and have sex with a different woman as frequently as you are willing to put in any effort? A lot of men, especially younger men in their teens and twenties abide by that code. I've always been a romantic. While I have had a one night stand, it was very awkward, and in the end I ended up dating her and had a really bad experience. So I don't do the whole one night stand thing. However, some guys enjoy it. Yet, these same guys, frequently but not always, complain about being single and having a hardtime finding someone to love or who will love them. One of my co-workers / friends, is a good guy, but he sleeps around. He probably has had more putty in a month or so than I've had my entire life. However, he always complains to me about not being able to find "the one", and how he these girls he meets at the clubs and bars get his rocks of physically, but do not blow his mind. A warning sign for you to look out for next time is this... does the guy try to jump in the sack within the first date? if so, avoid him.

[CelticGibson]

Ever hear of the expression "A leopard never changes his spots"?

 

This guy likes the one night stands, otherwise he would have only done it once and regretted it and never done it again. Not all guys like to do it though. I, myself, wouldn't be interested because I prefer to have that connection where intimacy makes sense.

 

Judge him on his actions, not on what he tells you then you will see it for what it is.

[flitzanu]

Okay so before I met my now ex he had a few one night stands...

He said they were awful and had no connection and didn't even .. Well you know what.

 

When he met me he said it felt so good and connected and he could never do the one night stand thing again the girls are all easy and cheap.

 

Now he's left me to fulfill a single free life no doubt doing the one night stand thing again- amazing!

 

its called "pillow talk". i'd presume he said the exact same thing to every other girl he convinced quickly to sleep with him.

[SimonSerenade]

To most men it's just a game, a cruel game never the less but that's what it is, an ego boosting game, personally that kind of life always made me sick to my stomach so single or not you'd never see me in a club, It's not always the reason why guys do it though, some people just do it to get something out of there system and feel attractive, I've never done it but after seeing countless froends over the years do it, that's what I take from it, kudos to you for sticking with a guy like that, I could never feel comfortable if I knew my ex had done that, my ex was a virgin when we first made love but she lied to me before hand saying she had 2 other guys and honestly if she did it wouldn't bother me, it was just that she made it out to be so meaningless, I think my point is, society see's it as normal these days and people are generally pressured and expected to act like that, when she told me these lies my heart felt through my ass, I just think its so unattractive, if he is doing all that then he isn't worth your time anymore and you should be looking forward to the next guy you meet.