jmwinters Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 To start out with a little background, so I met this girl for about two months. We have mutual friends who we dance salsa almost every week. She is really busy, so we only went out three times alone just the two of us and every time when I drop her off home she would say "It was really fun hanging out with you guys" I read this as signal that she does not want any romance relationship rather just friendship, but at the same time I am confused she is still flirting with me and the way she dances with me is apparently different then the other guys. We have way more eye contacts and she only teaches me. At the same time I am receiving a green and red light and I am so confused. So I called her around 9:30pm Sunday night hope that I can get some answers. She didn't pick up and text me back an hour later saying in her words: "whats up". me "nothing much just wanted to see how you doing" She said "super tired" me "from what? weight lifting?" conversation ended and I have not heard back ever since. Is that offensive? I was just joking. I know that she does not go to the gym, but she knows I do, so I just threw out an ironic joke. Should I call her to apologize? She is avoiding me and I really don't want her to think that I am bugging her.
Cutiepie1976 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 ...She is avoiding me and I really don't want her to think that I am bugging her. Then drop it and stop contacting her. It's also not a good idea to call someone that late at night if you don't know the person well.
Feelin Frisky Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Yeah, it's a dead end. She feeds her own ego off of you and then dispenses of you when she has gotten what she wants. Despite popular notion to the contrary, a man needs to get a woman to want him and not show his cards that he wants her. If she doesn't pursue at all it ain't happening. If you dance with her again you can make all the goo goo eyes you want, then drop her flat when the music stops.
Author jmwinters Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 I dont really want to retaliate. I am a mellow guy and dont take things personally. I know I am not gonna get her, but as the same time don't want to give up our friendship.
Author jmwinters Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 What friendship? She's avoiding you. Thank you. You hammered to the nail. I was supposed to go bowling with our mutual friends and her tonight, but I opted out. I think she is avoiding me for a reason, and I dont want her to feel awkward.
Estate Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Thank you. You hammered to the nail. I was supposed to go bowling with our mutual friends and her tonight, but I opted out. I think she is avoiding me for a reason, and I dont want her to feel awkward. haha, what? She has no feelings for you, if it was me she could go take a running jump. What do you care about HER for?
Cutiepie1976 Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 Thank you. You hammered to the nail. I was supposed to go bowling with our mutual friends and her tonight, but I opted out. I think she is avoiding me for a reason, and I dont want her to feel awkward. She doesn't feel awkward unless you're asking her for one-on-one time together. You do. Go about your business with your other friends, and leave her out of your decision-making process. She's going about her life. You should too.
apple OR orange Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 now this is interesting.... "you dont want her to feel...", well she doesn’t seem to do the same for you, so that tells you she doesn’t care.... Other threads on here will tell you the "alpha male" will do what he wants so that means you go bowling and say something like... "hi, thanks for calling back... NOT..." aka calling her out on it AND not caring. The problem you have here as the alpha male really wont care, you may be, you just need to show you dont. I do this, however i am still single, but then i dont believe in the alpha male thing, its more to do with if you will ever get sex, some dont, some do, it has no bearing on how you act, more to do with the unspoken word. When i do this with women they will say "whats his problem" as i have no draw for them to want sex... however i really dont care as i already know i wont get sex..
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