Justletgo Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Please give me your thoughts on her behavior: - Why did she act so bitter - Were the things she said true? Especially about her not doubting her decision for a second. I was technically the dumper, but was forced to because she wanted to go have a drink with another man. She is with him now, although she has not made it official I think. So I reactivated my facebook and noticed she had unblocked me. She had blocked me for no reason. Here is the conversation in total it lasted for like 30 minutes, but usually she didn't respond fast. -------------------------------------------------------------------- I asked her: I noticed you unblocked me, why? She said: I can block you again if you want. I just thought it would be normal to not have to do that.as the normal thing to do. I said: I dont care, It's clear that you want nothing to do with me. Her: Great that you care. Me: Why do you act bitter towards me, have I mistreated you in any way? Her: Your a retard if you don't know that. Me: Well I dont know what your talking about so please enlighten me. Her: Where do you live? Me: That's an odd thing to ask, why would you want to know. Her: No not at all. Me: I will tell you if you tell me why your angry. Her: I can't, because your a retard. Me: Is it because you regret your decision? Her: Don't make me laugh. I haven't doubted it for a second. --------------------------------------------------------- I asked her why she was mad a couple of times again (shouldn't have done that in hindsight). She said she wasn't going to talk anymore because it just made her angry. I said that not telling me was just a waste of time. - she blocked me again- ------------------------------------------------------------ Why did she act like this?
GI_Joy Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 To be fair, I kind of got the vibe that you were being bitter towards her to begin with and she was just responding to the way you were talking to her. The fact that you even noticed that she unblocked you pretty much says it all...If you truly didn't care for her anymore you wouldn't even have contacted her, let alone posed that question her to begin with . 1
Author Justletgo Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 Ah, I'm sorry I didn't notice that. But yes -I do care-. But the big question here is. Do you think she does? She said some REALLY nasty things, even though I didn't really.
Author Justletgo Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 It seems like no other people are replying. Is this because GI_Joy hit the nail on the head? I would welcome some more opinions!
lop98 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Frankly that sounds like the exchanges I'd have with my ex post BU. He'd accuse me of being "angry" while for me he was being completely passive-aggressive (trying to come off as calm but there's obvious tension and an accusatory tone at all times that is laughable and pisses me off because how shameless could he be...). There are obviously still very strong feelings there, if I'd know how to go back to being civil, I'd tell you and try it myself. Problem is 5 months is still too fresh, so you either have to let time go by so you can both truly heal and move on and look at it from a great distance (say, 2 or 3 years) or (this one's kind of destined for nothing) someone will have to bring down the guard and apologize (expecting nothing in return, just for your own good), but since she's already with someone else and you're both hurt, that's likely to backfire. I'm on month 3 post BU... if I ever unblock my ex, that's probably the kind of conversation we'd have because, even though we're both already seeing other people, I still have so much accumulated rage and sadness towards him... and I still love him.
intigo Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Look man if you read my thread my ex spoke really sweet on the phone said all kind of things kept breaking NC but in the end (like linkin park say) it doesnt even matter. Imo you were honest with her and she was just nasty, after all she said i dont regret my decision. 90% of people in this site want to get back with their ex (me included) but its not in our hands. Dont ask why she said these things it will make you fell worse i have 100 unreplied questions but after 2 months of her stringing me along and 15 days NC i dont care about the answers. I love her with all my heart shes with someone else life is not fair but thats how it is. Maybe i ll get another chance in the future maybe i wont maybe i ll find someone better who knows?I wont say forget her you cant forget anyone just take your time to grief.You are not alone man you are not alone.
Author Justletgo Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 (edited) I actually posted this question on a couple of sites. About 20 responses in total - all negative. It is painfully clear, everyone agress that -she doesn't care-. I just don't understand why she doesn't care, but is still bitter towards me. One would think that could only happen if she did care. It sucks so much, but it's finally clear. I do love and respect her, more than this guy who practically stole her from me ever will. We were both each others firsts and together for 4,5 years. She is already flirting with another guy behind his back in less than 3 months on. She doesn't seem to deserve it though. I am forced to move on, atleast I have no regrets and gave it my all. The bad thing is, if she ever does regret, it will be v hard to believe that. We will see what the future holds. I wish both of you luck with your exes and thanks for the responses. Edited May 8, 2013 by Justletgo
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