Smokemirrors Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 I know we all felt it. That our love story was different. That this person really got and understood me. This was the 'one'. Then it ends, and your devastated because this was 'different', this was 'special'. Well, if it was so special, why has it ended? Think about it. I thought mine was different. That I could get her back and it could work as she 'understood' me. We were 'great' together. Well, looking around the boards here, it seems that my relationship wasn't 'special'. It wasn't 'different'. She wasn't the 'one'. My story happens every day, to thousands of people. No I look at it, we weren't that 'special' or 'different'. Just the same as every other couple on here that have broken up. Just with a slightly different middle. The ending is the same. 4
mbee Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 (edited) I honestly wouldn't say that. You aren't in everyone's relationships and everyone has different experiences. If it felt special to you, then it is special and that's that. Let me give you some perspective. About 5 years ago, I thought I had something special and meaningful with a guy. I could have been complaining about it on this forum if I'd known of its existence. That was special to me. Then I met my ex, where we truly had something beautiful and amazing. More amazing than I could imagine. Yet, here we are and he's my ex. Listening to everyone else's stories can be difficult and show some similarities but you are on this forum, with limited space, time and words. I can say me and my ex had something beautiful and amazing and you might compare that to your relationship. However, we are different people, our exes are different people and the relationships are different. Everyone deserves to be with someone and have it feel special but please keep perspective. When you meet your future wife, then that will be truly meaningful. You'll look back at the many years you had together and that will define the beauty of your relationship. What you had wasn't anything special, it's just different and it should be inspiring that many people have meaningful relationships. When I was younger I used to have this mindset that only a few people find that person with a true connection. Fortunately that's not true and it may not even happen for the majority of people but it does happen, and it's good that it happens since everyone deserves that. Be glad you had that with someone and it is special. You don't know the future, but you will find that again. I very much love my ex and what we had is special. I don't know the future, but if he's not in my future, then I pray and hope I'll find someone else that I have a special and deep connection with but that shares many many years with me. I hope this helps. Don't let everyone's stories influence you. Remember people on here are usually heartbroken and going through rough patches. We also represent a small subset of the population. There are billions of people out there who have different stories and more positive views. And just to reiterate, you are just reading text about a complicated love story. I could not even begin to describe the relationship me and my ex had. You are not in other people's lives and can't feel what they feel or get the whole overarching picture. Imagine if each thread had the other partner involved, explaining how they feel as well. Try to not compare your story to everyone else's. There are similarities but that's life. There are also vast differences and that's what makes your story unique. The ending may be the same but how you change as a result of breaking up and how she changes is what ultimately matters and paves the way to you finding the right person for you. Edited May 8, 2013 by mbee 5
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