Breathe Posted September 24, 2004 Posted September 24, 2004 I had my first conversation today with one of the OW - the one that had MM's baby. It was soooo NICE! She's fine with me calling her and checking on her and the baby and sending gifts and even going out there for a visit. Yeah! I've wanted to call her for so long as I want to know this baby. (I've known the OW for years) As well as I want our kids to know each other. Well, my SO isn't happy about my talking with her. He wants nothing to do with her or the baby AT ALL nor does he ever want to talk about them. I take that back - when we're on the outs, he wants to be a part of her life but when we're fine he doesn't. Anyhow, now he's upset because he feels "the odd one out" and feels we're just bad mouthing him. So... the problem - yes I'm getting there. I can see how this is already tstarting to cause problems. He's not comfortable with this at all. I don't know how to really make him feel comfortable as I can't change his thoughts, feelings, etc. I don't want to be on the defensive end.... but I don't know what to do if this gets blown out of porportion or what to expect. Any thoughts?
Taken_Angel Posted September 24, 2004 Posted September 24, 2004 COuld he be afraid that if you two get together you'll learn what a snake he really is and her the same...maybe he's afraid w/ you seeing the baby and talking to her that you'll re-live the pain and leave him and she won't want him back either then poor little him he'll be all alone!
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