makingmehappy Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 How is everyone surviving this? Not only is my heart broken, but so are my kids. And since my STBX keeps playing with us ... (as you have helped me realize he is the biggest narcissist), the emotions in the house are always up and down depending on what their dad does. Just an example: Last night we were at our son's baseball game. He passes out while in Left Field. STBX doesn't want to take him to the ER because it will cost him more. REAllY? who is thinking of that at this point. Then he leaves the ER an hour after we get there because he has stuff to do. I understand he made a decision to leave us and I understand that he doesn't have to be as hands on as he thought he was when he was here, but to leave your kid in the ER? There are many situations like this on a daily basis. Here are some of the ones from the last two days: - Asked him to cover sons choir concert when i was with daughter: NO, I can't call off I won't get paid and I am already taking off tom. night to go fishing without getting paid. - STBX "how much money have you paid out in prom for daughter and baseball for son." gave amount. Well here is ten dollars to help cover ____daughter (why give a name it needs to go to? and umm 10 dollars?) -Comes into house while I am at work.. packs lunch and dinner from my fridge and then tells the kids to do his laundry. Throws fit because kids grumble and then he leaves. Calls them back and asks if laundry is done. -comes into the house telling me in front of kids that he can't pay what he needs to pay because he just bought two new fishing poles. Then says it is about time I get a second job to take the stress off of him. HOw does everyone get control of their life back? He is still manipulating situations and trying to control us. The kids are confused, mad and frustrated. I have changed the locks, have told him that if he comes over and gets mad to leave and not come back. To not come over if he is going to get mad or try and control the environment which is not his anymore. To check the family calendar that I loaded onto his phone so he knows what the kids are doing etc... well in advance. I guess I need to quit creating opportunities for him to interact with his children by reminding him of activities etc. So confused on what to do......
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