Chase4U Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 (edited) I badly miss him so much. I'm staying strong. Staying no contact! I even keep myself updated. Here is how I do it: May 2: NO CONTACT (SUCCEED) May 3: NO CONTACT (BROKEN BY HIM TO CONGRATS ME ON EMPLOYEE OF THE MONTH) May 4: NO CONTACT (SUCCEED) May 5: NO CONTACT (BROKEN BY HIM ABOUT A SONG LAST NIGHT IN HIS AREA) May 6: NO CONTACT (SUCCEED) May 7: NO CONTACT (SUCCEED) May 8: NO CONTACT ?????????? It helps haha. I started the no contact thing on May 2 by myself quietly and when I did, he would break it. Lately, it's been hitting me HARD! I just want to talk to him. There's 90% chance he's gonna message me today. At the same time I like he does cause he thinks of me and at the same time I HATE IT. We make small talks and joke around as friends. If I need to talk, he is always willing to listen. I kinda wanna ask him if he wants to skype or talk this weekend since I haven't heard his voice in 2 weeks and just tell him how I feel while keeping it clean but I feel that isn't a good idea. I also feel I should text first instead of him, it would be me being assertive and take control to text first which is a reason why we broke up. I wasn't very assertive, initiative, taking control enough which he was the one always doing. I did explained to him the reason for this which was the cause of my anxiety. I talked to him on May 3rd last night how much I have improved over the past month and he was proud of me. The breakup really gave me that self-boost. I feel it was worth it. I needed to work on my issues. I do want a second chance but personally I feel I am not ready just yet and want to take things slow with him which is being his friend. sighsssss. When you're really badly hurt by something, you really become more aware of it. I remember him saying when he was hurt. How would I feel if he were to do this or that to me?! Now I feel it by being in his shoes Again, staying strong! staying no contact! Is it wrong of me just wanting to talk to him? Edited May 8, 2013 by Chase4U
TaraMaiden Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 No Contact is only broken if you respond. Had you IGNORED all his attempts to talk, your record would look like this: May 2: NO CONTACT (SUCCEED) May 3: NO CONTACT (SUCCEED - Attempt to break by him, ignored.) May 4: NO CONTACT (SUCCEED) May 5: NO CONTACT (SUCCEED - Attempt to break by him, ignored.) May 6: NO CONTACT (SUCCEED) May 7: NO CONTACT (SUCCEED) May 8: NO CONTACT (Oh, same old same old - SUCCEED) May 9: AS ABOVE. ∞ 1
Author Chase4U Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 haha I'm glad you responded. I see your post around here! Your post are very helpful. OKKKKK! When he attempts to talk I would yes indeed respond to him. I just can't ignore him.....we've never ever ignored each other. Our bond is pretty tight. I can't bring myself to ignore him no matter how much I try.
Author Chase4U Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 Just not ignoring him would hurt. We were in a long distances and it was HARD on him. this was my second and I vowed not to do it again cause the last was hard on me and he was just the way I was but he gave me hope and trust again. Funny thing is, I am moving back to NYC which is where he lives. It just would hurt if he ignores me and being ignored is a biggest pet peeve of mines and I can't do that. I'm sorry. This guy made my world. I just want to talk to him about some issues with us and if nothing, that's ok. The past is in the past, I learned so much from it and I want him to see that.
Author Chase4U Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 One time I did ignored his text and we didn't talk for 3 days. The next day he said "are you alive?" and I lied and said my phone was off and he goes oh it's just weird not hearing from you in 3 days just glad you're alive and we talked. bleeeh. Call me a fighter for love. It's true you can't fight for the person if he person doesn't wanna fight back. I guess I'm showing him that I can take control of a situation. Who knows.......
Author Chase4U Posted May 9, 2013 Author Posted May 9, 2013 You guys say the point of no contact is to not have ANY contact with your ex including replying to their text which basically means just to ignore them. We didn't talk at all yesterday which made it 3 days which is the second time we have ever talked that long. He just messaged me now about his brother's girlfriend mom just passed away a few days before mothers day. He would always talk about his brother's girlfriend with me. Now, I have never met his family due to him being bisexual and yes which makes me gay. He isn't out unlike me. Wouldn't it be harsh of me to ignore his text? I mean....I love him to death. I know I wanna stick to no contact but I feel so bad to ignore and it sounds he just want to talk =/ It's kinda odd cause I was gonna message him today but was being strong not to.
CelticGibson Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 Chase4U, you have no choice but to stop communicating with him. All you are doing is keeping yourself held back and in turmoil. It doesn't matter if it's hard on him or not. He decided he wanted out so give it to him. No Contact is about you, not him. Leave him be and ignore any and all attempts to keep you strung along. Life is unfair. We want what we cannot have and in this case you want him to want you and this is not the case. You need to stop this or you will be stuck in pain for longer than necessary. Whether you ignore his texts or not, what he thinks of you now doesn't matter. If you can't find the willpower to not respond, change your number so he can't contact you and block all other avenues until you are over this. No Contact is the way to go.
Recommended Posts