Goodbye Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 I have been doing (somewhat) better in recent days. I've been nc with exMM for a little over a week now, and over a month out from his request to "have space." I've been very busy, and haven't been spending quite as much time reading and posting on LS, which I think has helped keep my mind off of HIM and grieving. The past 3 nights have been filled with strange, vivid dreams pertaining, in different ways, to the exMM. It bothers me. Leaves me with that strange feeling all morning. I want, so badly, for him to become meaningless in my life. I'm tired of him occupying my mind. 1
Its_MEE Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 I was just going to post about my dreams. I had one last night that woke me up and kept me up. In the dream I met with his W, told her everything. He walked in and tried to kick me out. Denying it all.. He looked so ugly.. When I tried to walk away he chase me and I spit in his face... Lol... Crazy... I have no real advise because I am starting NC again today.. But.. Stay strong.. A week is awesome!.. I truly dont even know how I'll make it that long. But every time I look at him at work.. I'll remember that dream.. Where he was ugly. <3 1
Got it Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 IM - I know it is frustrating when you are trying to move forward on something and ever night your mind brings it back up. It's your brain trying to work through what you are suppressing during the day. I think journaling the dreams is helpful to work through any common trends and to work through you feelings. It will get better, it's just that dreaded word . .. . Time. (((((((IM))))))))))
lilmisscantbewrong Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 The dreams are for you. There is meaning in them and your subconscious is trying to work out these issues. They aren't really "literal", although I have had a few where I have dreamed about a specific situation and it did come to pass, but those are rare. Mostly when I have dreams like that I believe I am getting a glimpse into the emotions and feelings of the other person(s). There is usually something that is of value for you. Sometimes they are warnings as well. I always pay close attention to them, especially if they are vivid.
who_am_i Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 I have been doing (somewhat) better in recent days. I've been nc with exMM for a little over a week now, and over a month out from his request to "have space." I've been very busy, and haven't been spending quite as much time reading and posting on LS, which I think has helped keep my mind off of HIM and grieving. The past 3 nights have been filled with strange, vivid dreams pertaining, in different ways, to the exMM. It bothers me. Leaves me with that strange feeling all morning. I want, so badly, for him to become meaningless in my life. I'm tired of him occupying my mind. I'm with you. I'm so sick of thinking about him.
Sarabi Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 wow...we have our own little dream factory here I too...had a dream last night. It wasn't unpleasant in any way though... but it did involve his wife. We were chatting...and chatting and chatting on the phone. We were friends. And its like we'd been friends for a while. Nothing malicious, nothing nasty, nothing to do with the affair in any way shape or form...general chit chat about work and how crazy the company is...then I remember her asking me at some point "oh I think you know my husband.."(at that point I felt a bit guilty because I thought "yeah...I know him") but its like we were planning something (party, outing, picnic...something like that)! Anyway. Just thought I'd get it all down
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