crimsoncurrent Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Stats: 3 and half year relationship ended, next week will be 4 months of NC, BU happened nearly 5 months ago. Don't really know what's going on, but I'm really wanting to break NC right now, checking FB, or typing her name in google search and seeing what comes up. I really don't know why this is happening. I really haven't been tempted like this in awhile. I haven't spoken to her in 4 and half months. I'm almost certain she's in another relationship, just really curious as to who it is. If someone can give me some strengthening words, I'd really be grateful. Thanks so much.
th90 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Don't really know what's going on, but I'm really wanting to break NC right now It will pass. It will pass. It will pass. You will be so thankful you didn't break NC when it does pass. 1
Author crimsoncurrent Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 It will pass. It will pass. It will pass. You will be so thankful you didn't break NC when it does pass. Sometimes, I feel so restless going through this, like its never going to end. I just want to not miss her anymore.
th90 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Sometimes, I feel so restless going through this, like its never going to end. I just want to not miss her anymore. I totally understand. I went through so many waves of temptation to break NC. Identify it as an intoxicating thought. Nothing more than that. Go back to focusing on yourself now. 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 The thing is, your mind is telling you it's fine and no big deal if you break NC, but it WILL hurt, confuse and upset you. Do NOT do it Can you really handle seeing her new dude and her new happiness? I know I could not handle that crap. Probably, neither can you... 2
Author crimsoncurrent Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 The thing is, your mind is telling you it's fine and no big deal if you break NC, but it WILL hurt, confuse and upset you. Do NOT do it Can you really handle seeing her new dude and her new happiness? I know I could not handle that crap. Probably, neither can you... Yes, that's it! You articulated exactly what I couldn't put my finger on. In a very subtle, subconscious level, I want to break NC because I don't think it would be such a big deal, just innocent curiosity, even if she's with a new guy. But yeah, my mind is trying to trick me into justifying me breaking NC. Thank you for responding!
Inviv_girl Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 What you gonna do to "break" it?? - Hey how are you? - Hey... you miss me? - Hey.. hows your new love? - Hey.. how's your life going without me? Dude u've been so strong enough those months of NC, u sure wanna break it? 1
Author crimsoncurrent Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 What you gonna do to "break" it?? - Hey how are you? - Hey... you miss me? - Hey.. hows your new love? - Hey.. how's your life going without me? Dude u've been so strong enough those months of NC, u sure wanna break it? Yeah, I thought about how awkward it would be to initiate contact after nearly 4 months of NC. Just the thought of emailing, calling, texting is anxiety-inducing, especially if there was no response. I really don't know how I would react. I would be really hurt. There's no upside for breaking NC if I think about it logically. 1
LoveB86 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 I am tempted everyday to confront my ex and his new gf at work. But I won't!! I like to remain a mystery. We dumpees know they chose to leave, so who cares how/what/they feel or is doing. Let her wonder about you. Let her mind keep her wondering where you are, what you been up too, whether you have a girlfriend. You know she probably question herself that atleast once! Don't break NC! Keep it mystery. 2
mtnbiker3000 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 There's no upside for breaking NC if I think about it logically. Correct!!!
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