mortensorchid Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 I decided to give OLD yet another try because I can't seem to meet people in real life through channels that most seem to be able to. I admit, I have become increasingly bitter and disappointed in others as time goes on, but I try to not let it show on a profile. I've done POF in the past, and I'd been disappointed. I took my profile down on OKC because it was just a series of false starts and jerks. Of the three I met in the flesh, they were all duds who I never heard from again. The last one was such a jerk that he simply walked away from me when the evening was over with - no hug, no handshake, nothing - he just said "Thanks for the stories" and went to his car. I said "Hey, thanks for the food", gave him the finger, and walked away. All others I had gotten into a sort of email correspondence with just mysteriously deleted their profiles after a certain point, and I gave up on OKC. In the past with POF, I encountered nothing but dudes looking for hook ups a few hours from now. Now, it's different. Maybe it's because I'm older, but I will see what I will see with this new romp for the summer. If nothing else I will have stories to report.
fortyninethousand322 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 It's weird. I never ask for hookups and yet I don't ever get responses on POF. I can only conclude that the women where I live are only looking for hookups...
ChrisGX Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 (edited) It's weird. I never ask for hookups and yet I don't ever get responses on POF. I can only conclude that the women where I live are only looking for hookups... Trust me dude. Most girls are not up for hookups on POF or at least they don't take kindly to hook up offers as a first message. I've tried and they're not up for it:p If you're getting absolutely 0 messages then there's probably something else at work. I know guys who are complete losers irl but they get contacted by (fat) girls occasionally. How many girls have you messaged? What are you messaging? Do you read their profiles? How tall are you? Are you fat or hard to look at? Are you in education, employment or training? Edited May 8, 2013 by ChrisGX
fortyninethousand322 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Trust me dude. Most girls are not up for hookups on POF or at least they don't take kindly to hook up offers as a first message. I've tried and they're not up for it:p If you're getting absolutely 0 messages then there's probably something else at work. I know guys who are complete losers irl but they get contacted by (fat) girls occasionally. How many girls have you messaged? What are you messaging? Do you read their profiles? How tall are you? Are you fat? I do occasionally get messages from women 30+ who are overweight yes and have children (usually several). Probably about once every 3-4 months I get those. I've sent probably 7-10 a week on POF. Something like that. I read their profiles and send unique messages. I am 6 foot tall. And no I'm not fat. I have a college degree. I have no idea if I'm "good looking" or not. I've never asked for hookups (nor do I want them), I'm merely speculating.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Trust me dude. Most girls are not up for hookups on POF or at least they don't take kindly to hook up offers as a first message. I've tried and they're not up for it:p If you're getting absolutely 0 messages then there's probably something else at work. I know guys who are complete losers irl but they get contacted by (fat) girls occasionally. How many girls have you messaged? What are you messaging? Do you read their profiles? How tall are you? Are you fat or hard to look at? Are you in education, employment or training? Agreed. To be successful as a guy on OLD, you have to be (at a minimum) tall, good-looking, extremely witty, and have a very good job. To be successful as a girl on OLD, you have to create a profile and add one picture. It's very hard to take women seriously when they say they have difficulties dating in general. 3
ChrisGX Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 (edited) I do occasionally get messages from women 30+ who are overweight yes and have children (usually several). Probably about once every 3-4 months I get those. I've sent probably 7-10 a week on POF. Something like that. I read their profiles and send unique messages. I am 6 foot tall. And no I'm not fat. I have a college degree. I have no idea if I'm "good looking" or not. I've never asked for hookups (nor do I want them), I'm merely speculating. 7-10/week is not enough. You're putting to much effort into your messages. You should just spend a minute reading their profile and pick out one or two things in their profile that stand out and comment on them. You can easily send 50 messages in 2 hours. That's the most efficient way to approach online dating. Another very noteworthy thing about pof is that they put you at the top of their search engine when you first sign up but after a few days you're placed on the backburner. This is done so that new clients are hooked on the success they receive the first few days. You can try deleting and recreating your profile on a weekly basis to abuse the system they have in place. Edited May 8, 2013 by ChrisGX
sillyanswer Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Maybe it's because I'm older, but I will see what I will see with this new romp for the summer. If nothing else I will have stories to report. Good luck, and have fun.
SJC2008 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 It's weird. I never ask for hookups and yet I don't ever get responses on POF. I can only conclude that the women where I live are only looking for hookups... Here's what works best for me: Message women who have viewed you. They seen your pic and clicked on it for a reason. When you search what profiles did you click on? Exactly! TBS don't expect to go from rags to riches but there will be an improvement. Also, a new "trick" I've learned is to make a comment on something in their profile and that's IT!. Don't introduce yourself, don't ask anything! One girl had a popular hangout listed and I messaged her "As embarrassing as it is to admit, I've never been to x in my 20 years here". Response! Make a joke if you can, keep the convo going on the next message and throw in a "I'm x btw" at the end. It shows you read there profile, it shows you're not some desperate sap, and that your not one of the "hey baby" sleazeballls. I have hardly ever gotten responses from well thought in depth messages! I've gotten the most responses from "bulk" and the comment only type of messages. Try it and see what happens.
phineas Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Trust me dude. Most girls are not up for hookups on POF or at least they don't take kindly to hook up offers as a first message. I've tried and they're not up for it:p If you're getting absolutely 0 messages then there's probably something else at work. I know guys who are complete losers irl but they get contacted by (fat) girls occasionally. How many girls have you messaged? What are you messaging? Do you read their profiles? How tall are you? Are you fat or hard to look at? Are you in education, employment or training? Who messages for a hook-up on the first message? The same guys who open with a dic pic. Both I doubt really happen all that often. However, i'm 41 and I can easily tell the difference between a woman on OLD that is into me or is just bored. The one's who are into me ALWAYS take the texting sexual very quickly. Usually after they request a different photo from off the site. I always send them a pic of me flexing with my bi-cep stretching the shirt sleeve. LOL! Have yet to have a woman cancel or go "ewww" after that. Sadly when they send a return pic it's just as old & outdated as their profile pics so the woman who shows up is at least 5yrs older & weighs at least 25lbs more. I could of very easily hooked up with these women if I wanted a 2nd date with them.
Buttercup84 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 I signed up last night, and all messages that I get are " Hey baby "
salparadise Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 To be successful as a girl on OLD, you have to create a profile and add one picture. It's very hard to take women seriously when they say they have difficulties dating in general. It does seem ludicrous to hear a woman complain about lack of success in online dating. I'm pretty sure I have figured it out though... ninety-five percent of women are focused on only the top five percent of men. When they complain about not being successful it doesn't mean they can't get a man, it means they can't get a top five man. When a man complains about not being successful it means he can't any attractive woman to respond... because they're all focused on the same handful of guys, and he's not one of those. Not much different from the situation IRL.
crederer Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 (edited) OLD doesn't work for me. Girls always say on there "no looking for hookups" and "Where are the normal, nice guys?" which I feel fits my description. Yet I'm very unsuccessful on there. I'm a decent looking dude. Have a few extra pounds, not obese or anything. I also workout quite a bit, can bench over 200lbs, so I'm kind of a muscular kind of fat guy, broad shoulders, very muscular legs, etc. A lot of people say I look like Elvis (with the extra pounds, I guess that means the later years lol) but I get hit on in person by some fairly attractive females on a relatively regular basis. I do pretty well in person but online not so much. I also read girls profiles and tend to send thoughtful messages. And I'm not going after the hottest girls on there either, a lot of times they're generally at my level of attractiveness. I'll send a well thought out message that I feel has a lot of humor in it, and if I get a response it'll usually be a two word answer like "lol, that's funny" or "Yeah, that's cool". Like wtf? That's your response? Edited May 8, 2013 by crederer more info 1
Buttercup84 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 OLD doesn't work for me. Girls always say on there "no looking for hookups" and "Where are the normal, nice guys?" which I feel fits my description. Yet I'm very unsuccessful on there. I'm a decent looking dude. Have a few extra pounds, not obese or anything. I also workout quite a bit, can bench over 200lbs, so I'm kind of a muscular kind of fat guy, broad shoulders, very muscular legs, etc. A lot of people say I look like Elvis (with the extra pounds, I guess that means the later years lol) but I get hit on in person by some fairly attractive females on a relatively regular basis. I do pretty well in person but online not so much. I also read girls profiles and tend to send thoughtful messages. And I'm not going after the hottest girls on there either, a lot of times they're generally at my level of attractiveness. I'll send a well thought out message that I feel has a lot of humor in it, and if I get a response it'll usually be a two word answer like "lol, that's funny" or "Yeah, that's cool". Like wtf? That's your response?[/QUOT Elvis ? Photo please
sillyanswer Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 I signed up last night, and all messages that I get are " Hey baby " I don't send those myself, but I assume they work otherwise they wouldn't be so popular. If you're on PoF you could consider: Edit Profile -> Mail Settings -> First contact messages must be -> 50 characters+
GI_Joy Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Met my ex on POF, he was the one and only guy I ever met on that site. The fact that he's now an ex basically says it all. 1
SunsetRed Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Good luck, but I'd at least try another site besides POF. The guys I met on POF were just looking for one night stands.
curlygirl40 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Good luck! I'm curious why you don't try a paid site? How come not something like Match where your odds would be better?
hudson701 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Agreed. To be successful as a guy on OLD, you have to be (at a minimum) tall, good-looking, extremely witty, and have a very good job. To be successful as a girl on OLD, you have to create a profile and add one picture. It's very hard to take women seriously when they say they have difficulties dating in general. This. The most profound thing I have read this week.
sillyanswer Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 This. The most profound thing I have read this week. Profound? It's not even accurate.
hudson701 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Profound? It's not even accurate. Seriously? As an everyday 'real-life' social observation it is absolutely bang-on. I don't even know the poster but it resonates with my experience of OLD and the comments made by my female friends who use it.
charlietheginger Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 My friend was on POF..... After a few dates his conclusion was "pof overweight single moms from broken homes Looking for a free meal" Not saying all women are like that but the ones he Met were. He even went a step further after first date Wrote down thier lic plate numbers paid a online background Check. All of the women had shady background with arrest 2
irc333 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 It's weird. I never ask for hookups and yet I don't ever get responses on POF. I can only conclude that the women where I live are only looking for hookups... Yeah, I think over 90% of women's dating profiles consist of the SAME tiring. "If you're a player, cheater, liar, or looking for just sex, please skip my profile!!" They usually have it in all CAPS either at the beginning of the POF profile or at the end of an OKC profile where it says, "You should message me if....." Getting sick of reading that on a constant basis...as IF that would even STOP those very men from contacting them. IN the same breath, I had emailed women who had made such a request in the past....thinking "Yeah, I"m not looking for JUST sex...so she'll probably be FINALLY be glad to hear from a man such as myself" Only to be ignored.... 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 My friend was on POF..... After a few dates his conclusion was "pof overweight single moms from broken homes Looking for a free meal" Not saying all women are like that but the ones he Met were. He even went a step further after first date Wrote down thier lic plate numbers paid a online background Check. All of the women had shady background with arrest Yeah I don't know. A lot of women on POF were like that, especially the ones who contacted me. There were a lot of women though on there who were like me: normal looking, college graduates, young professionals, etc. Problem is, none of them ever ever contacted me back if I messaged them.
sillyanswer Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Seriously? As an everyday 'real-life' social observation it is absolutely bang-on. I don't even know the poster but it resonates with my experience of OLD and the comments made by my female friends who use it. Yes, seriously. I'm having success with OLD, but I don't even have a job right now, let alone a "very good job". I'm okay-looking rather than "good-looking". I make a few wise-cracks on here but I'm not "extremely witty". Ok, so I am tall, but I don't think I tick the other 3 things that guys supposedly have to have, which is why I say that it's inaccurate. The whole 'women have it so much easier' thing is rather over-done in these forums. 1
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