lozzy94 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 My boyfriend and I were dating for about 3 months one of which he was away for the whole month. Before he went away when we started dating it was really good but then after he got back we didn't see each other really at all and I felt like neither of us were making an effort. A couple of weeks later we broke up really emotionally, he wanted to keep trying and was distraught but I just couldn't see it working because neither of us had any transport at the time and we live quite faraway and, as well as that, my Mum was getting married in a few weeks and I was the maid of honour. Now it's been about 2 months since we broke up and I think he still likes me and I think I might be in love with him. All i can think is how the circumstances have changed and we would be able to see each other a lot more now and I keep thinking that I sabotaged the relationship before because I was worried it would get serious. I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt him again and I'm worried his friends will be really annoyed if I try and pursue him. Also my friends are really controlling (another reason why we broke up) and I've been distancing myself from them which I feel like will help the situation. Please help! Thank you guys
Mrlonelyone Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 The thing is if you really like eachother you'll make or find the time to spend with eachother. The solution to that problem is really easy and 100% within you're control. I sabotaged the relationship before because I was worried it would get serious. I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt him again and I'm worried his friends will be really annoyed if I try and pursue him. Also my friends are really controlling (another reason why we broke up) and I've been distancing myself from them which I feel like will help the situation. I will assume you are in your early to mid 20's or younger. Please correct me if I am wrong. We will assume that because what you describe is common among younger people. His friends think he should date one person or kind of person. You're friend think you should date one person or kind of person. You both have to learn how to tell you're friends that who you date does not have to be any of their business. You're real friends will want to see you happy with whoever you date. Self sabotage of a serious relationship. I wish there was a simple answer to that. Some of us have fought that battle for years. All you can do is try to get back with this guy, and when you have him, try to remember how it felt to not have him. Hold onto how much you wanted him once you have him. It may also be that if you feel reservations about this guy that he isn't "the one". If you are young then you have plenty of time to meet "the one".
Author lozzy94 Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 Sorry I think I've misrepresented a few things! Firstly in terms of the friends I'm still really good friends with his friends but we just try and avoid talking about my ex because he was really hurt when we broke it off and I think they still blame me which is understandable and I wouldn't want to hurt him again. Re my friends, part of the reason we never had time is because my friends and I are really close so we would be hanging out almost 24/7 and at the time they were all single which made it hard to balance the two to the point where I felt like both parties were annoyed whichever way I went.
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