bikerider Posted September 24, 2004 Posted September 24, 2004 Well, I have good news. My girl dumped me 8 weeks ago and was dating this guy (Joe) 4 days afterwards. I thought the hurt would never go away but now it has. I have seen her out with him 4 times now and believe it or not you start to realize that it really is over, this is the cure. I was hoping and hanging and praying that it would come back but now I realize that the girl I was wanting back was actually the idea of what we once had. I don't want her now because she isn't that same girl I was in love with. She now has what she wants and I don't care. I was out last nigt and saw her with (Joe) This time I ignored her and didn't look her way except a glance in her direction because I was dancing and having a great time, right in front of her. It made me feel good knowing that she Knows I don't need her anymore. When I got up this morning I started to wonder about what she thought and then said outloud"I don't give a DAMN what she thinks. It's my life and now I have it back.
alicia24 Posted September 24, 2004 Posted September 24, 2004 you need to hang out at different places. who wants to run into their ex all the time?
Author bikerider Posted September 24, 2004 Author Posted September 24, 2004 Originally posted by alicia24 you need to hang out at different places. who wants to run into their ex all the time? No. She needs to hang out at different places. I'll go where I want because I can. If I see her, so what. She sees me too. Let her change. Sooner or later she is going to have to realize that I'm going to be at these places so SHE can accept it or get the HeLL out. My freedom to go where I want is not going to be taken away from me by her.
backspn Posted September 24, 2004 Posted September 24, 2004 Right on brother!!!! She is going there to make you jealous....youre my hero...show her whats up and next time bring a date of your own
Scott S Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Originally posted by backspn Right on brother!!!! She is going there to make you jealous....youre my hero...show her whats up and next time bring a date of your own Well, if you bring a date, do so because you want to spend time in this person's company, not because you want your ex to see you dating or to try to stir up jealousy. No one appreciates being used.
Author bikerider Posted September 27, 2004 Author Posted September 27, 2004 Actually, she took notice that I was dancing with different women. She came to my work place, a night club, 2 days later just before closing and started telling me she missed me, I love you, I cry every day, I pray to God every night that if it's ment to be let it happen, I'm all messed up inside etc. She is suspose to come over to my place tonight to talk. I don't really know what all of this means except that she saw me moving on and that made her think I was getting to far away in case she ever had a change of heart. I'll have some questions for her that I need answers for. She has been seeing "Joe" for 7 weeks. ( we have been broke up for 8 weeks ) I need to find out why she is telling me all of this and is still going out with "Joe". What does she want? Here we go again.
jamwinswim Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Wow.... You are my hero. You moved on, you accepted what had gone on, you started having fun and BOOM - it hits her in the face that shes lost you and look what has happened? Wow, I wish this happens for me, as I've started to go out and have some good fun now. Anyways, don't worry about tonight, you are in control tonight - she coming to talk to you. So make her talk.... don't answer too much to her. Make a point of it when she visits "I'm ready to listen to what you need to talk to me about" or "so what did you need to talk to me about?". Ask your questions at the end, if you need to. You're still my hero - you took control of what you had, and had fun, regardless of if she was about or not. You let go, you had fun....wow.... it doesnt mean tha tyou dont care for her, but that you took control for yourself. I hope tonight goes well for you buddy, just dont show her any weakness.... but I have no doubt that that will happen.
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