NGC1300 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 If a woman is truly attractive, without question she's going to be well-acclimated to men hitting on her time and time again. Does this not put a man at an instant disadvantage when it comes to conversing with her? How can this man possibly hope to stand out?
todreaminblue Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 i dont think theres a disadvantage...if she is single obviously the guys who hit on her arent doing that well....... aman will stand out because she is interested in him and what he has to say......being hit on by guys......its a much of muchness.....the only difference is..... if there is an attraction to begin with and desire to listen.....deb 1
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Yes, men are at a disadvantage in dating. If you are not the perfect physical specimen with the right personality, then you are at even more of a disadvantage. And no, I'm not a lonely heart on here. I'm a guy that gets girls. Dating is heavily slanted towards women in the civilized world (which is why I just when women say they're having trouble). Fortunately, you can improve your odds if you want. 1
BoneyHadger Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 What does it matter, if there's an inherent disadvantage you can do nothing about? Even if there is one, then what? You're gonna sit there and do nothing but complain? Or would it be better if you said "screw that nonsense" and worked with what you have anyway? Seriously, some ideas, true or not, are useless, and you're better off without them.
Ninjainpajamas Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 With hot women the biggest threat is not the men hitting on her from the outside, but the men that are within her social circle that have befriended her so when she becomes single, they can make a move. It's the "friends" angle, they hover around like vultures on a branch waiting for that availability and moment of weakness, to pounce on her while already establishing a "friendship". This way they don't have to be outright rejected like most men would and they can deceive her into believing it was just a "by chance" kind of thing, men love these kind of women in their circle, it opens up opportunities. Otherwise women are already used to being flirted with and being treated with "extra kindness", but this also happens with average women as well, if not more since an average woman doesn't feel "out of your league" for most men. That's way more approachable. So unless you are "hot" guy/total package or she feels like throwing you a bone because you were a nice guy, chances are a direct frontal attack on a hot girl will be fruitless...you have to be a weasel and find another way in...going through the back door or having "game" that she doesn't pick up on. The biggest vulnerability to really attractive women is in their own insecurity, loneliness and desire for validation. You as a man should not act differently or react to a woman's beauty and change your behavior. And you should not be like the above described men, if you have a spit of pride and self-respect. 2
Treasa Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 For me, if a guy is nice, funny, and sharp-witted and smart, it isn't going to matter what he looks like. I know a lot of "good-looking" guys who are total duds. Make me laugh, not out of spite, and chances are I'll at least give you a ride. 2
GorillaTheater Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Make me laugh, not out of spite, and chances are I'll at least give you a ride. Listen carefully guys. Words of wisdom.
Treasa Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Listen carefully guys. Words of wisdom. Case in point: I have no idea what GorillaTheater looks like, and I know he's married and I'd never start anything, but he's definitely one of the guys on this site I find "attractive." I find guys AND girls (yay, bisexuality) who are laid back and funny to be extremely attractive. ThaWholigan is another one. I'm sure I could think of others if I were more conscious. 1
GorillaTheater Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Case in point: I have no idea what GorillaTheater looks like, and I know he's married and I'd never start anything, but he's definitely one of the guys on this site I find "attractive." I find guys AND girls (yay, bisexuality) who are laid back and funny to be extremely attractive. ThaWholigan is another one. I'm sure I could think of others if I were more conscious. I may well have been married longer than you've been alive, but I added you as a contact. I am and was okay looking. I wasn't shy and was a fair conversationalist, but I always thought it was the humor that got girls into the sack. 1
Treasa Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 I may well have been married longer than you've been alive, but I added you as a contact. I am and was okay looking. I wasn't shy and was a fair conversationalist, but I always thought it was the humor that got girls into the sack. That's what does it for me!
Author NGC1300 Posted May 9, 2013 Author Posted May 9, 2013 For me, if a guy is nice, funny, and sharp-witted and smart, it isn't going to matter what he looks like. What if they were morbidly obese?
JakeFrye Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Easy. Be a better package then the competition. If you wanna stand out just perceive more about her than the others around her. Of course in competition you do have to be better than the rest. Makes it tough.
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