ConfusedT Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Ok, so we broke up one week ago today exactly and we've both texted each other at least once per day, so now I have to go on strict no-contact, for me to heal and just get the hell over him. He still has things at my house so we have to talk at least once more. Ive been through this BEFORE, but I have no idea how I did it because I am struggling right now. He texted me this morning, but I havent replied, although I really want to. And I feel hes like throwing it in my face that after this long, he's finally decided to go back to school- like showing out in a sense. I just need some direction on how to NOT respond and NOT initiate so I can be successful. I want to do this and I want to be happy again, it's no fun being heartbroken......
BustedUpInside Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 I am not sure if this will help you, but it did really help me go No Contact. It hurt me to do it to myself, but it hurt more to keep talking to him, knowing that we would never get back together. So what I do when I think about texting, calling, emailing, facebook, carrier pigeon, telegraph etc. is that I picture his face when he is reading it. You know how your ex would look when they were annoyed or didn't want to talk to someone. Picture them making that face whenever they are reading your stuff. Picture them saying things like "Ughh, I will write back so that they don't bug me anymore", "Don't they get it, we're broken up!", or other things. It will hurt your feelings at first to think about these things, but it will also make you tough. It doesn't matter if they are really thinking those things or not because if you picture it that way, it will become your reality and then you can see them in a different light and it will be easier to not even want to make contact. I hope this helps you like it helped me
Tod80 Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 I am not sure if this will help you, but it did really help me go No Contact. It hurt me to do it to myself, but it hurt more to keep talking to him, knowing that we would never get back together. So what I do when I think about texting, calling, emailing, facebook, carrier pigeon, telegraph etc. is that I picture his face when he is reading it. You know how your ex would look when they were annoyed or didn't want to talk to someone. Picture them making that face whenever they are reading your stuff. Picture them saying things like "Ughh, I will write back so that they don't bug me anymore", "Don't they get it, we're broken up!", or other things. It will hurt your feelings at first to think about these things, but it will also make you tough. It doesn't matter if they are really thinking those things or not because if you picture it that way, it will become your reality and then you can see them in a different light and it will be easier to not even want to make contact. I hope this helps you like it helped me that is an awesome bit of advice ... i just wrote a message and was going to send it on fb but didnt ... can you advise me on my post im in bits
BustedUpInside Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 I know you're sad right now. It is so hard to get over someone when they decide to leave you. There is nothing to do really but keep living your life. The longer you go withput talking to your ex, the better you will feel. What I do is give myself deadlines. After my ex dumped me, I said I would give myself five months to act and feel how I wanted to. To be as depressed and pathetic and pitiful as I wanted. I have three weeks left, but the truth is that i have been doing better for about a month. I still have relapses and doubts, but I feel myself getting stronger and pulling it together everyday.
Author ConfusedT Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 It does make really good sense BUT seeing that he's texted me 4x today and ive ignored everyone im really, really, really proud of myself!! 1
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