lamaga Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 I started writing with a guy on OKC and we had a connection right away. After a few days of writing, we met for a date, which was incredibly fun. We went on a second date yesterday and a third date today. The conversations we are having are amazing, he is very smart and we are simply on the same wavelength. I didn't think I would want to fall in love right now, but I think this guy and me could be something, if things progress as they have been. On Friday he wants to come visit me for 2 days (He lives in a different city, an hour away). I am very excited to show him my town but also a bit scared of expectations (from both sides)... Then after this weekend I'll have a friend visit me for 10 days, so I don't think I will be seeing the guy I am dating again during this time, so I want to make this date really, really special. Next week, his 28th birthday is coming up, but as mentioned, I won't be able to be with him during that time. He doesn't really have any friends in his city (he just moved here two months ago), and so I thought it would be cool if I get him something for his birthday and give it to him this weekend? Do you guys have any suggestions? Or do you think it's a completely stupid idea? PS: Unsure if I am ready to sleep with him, so you guys, don't suggest sex, mkay?... :lmao:
normal person Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 I don't think that's overdoing it. If I were you I'd probably take him out for dinner and get him a small, more sentimental/funny gift rather than a big flashy, expensive one. Think back to all your conversations and see if you can find a simple gift that relates to an inside joke you have or something of the sort. Good luck! 1
clia Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 I think you should keep it very low key. No matter how strong the connection you feel, it is still very, very early in the relationship. If I were you, I would just treat him to a nice dinner when you see him this weekend and forego actually buying him a gift. 1
Star Gazer Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 I think you should keep it very low key. No matter how strong the connection you feel, it is still very, very early in the relationship. If I were you, I would just treat him to a nice dinner when you see him this weekend and forego actually buying him a gift. Yes, this. I wouldn't get him an actual gift.
Author lamaga Posted May 7, 2013 Author Posted May 7, 2013 Oh boy, that can become difficult. There literally aren't any restaurants in my area... I live in the middle of nowhere. Haha.
todreaminblue Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Oh boy, that can become difficult. There literally aren't any restaurants in my area... I live in the middle of nowhere. Haha. cook him his favorite meal if you know it...if you dont......find it out ...stealth style and find out off hand in the middle of a conversation......and make it for him.....best wishes....d.eb
steveT95 Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Get him something personal to him but little. For example if he has a hobby get him a key ring related to that. That sounds lame but you get the idea. Or treat him well, buy a few drinks or something (I like spending money on girls but I think they must be special if they want to spend something on me) then just pop something in the post as a nice surprise for him on the day. It shows you are thinking of him.
anna121 Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 If you're going to get him a gift make sure it's funny rather than sentimental. Personally, I'd go with a funny card. Low key and no expectations attached, but it says that you thought of him.
90s kid Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 I agree that you should do something for his birthday. But maybe more of gesture that shows that you care about him rather than an actual gift. I would suggest cooking him dinner or baking him a cake. 1
Keenly Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Absolutely get him something. Think back to his conversations and what he has said. There has to be SOMETHING in there that you remember he said he likes / is interested in. Show him that you care about him and you listen to the things he says by getting one of those things related to it. He will love it.
PogoStick Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Don't buy a silly gift. Just make the most of your visit and tell him you wish you could be there for his birthday. Keep in mind staying the night will likely have sex on his mind. Personally, I say wake him up with a morning BJ! The best would be like a really nice cheesecake, fresh, not those frozen ones. Some grocery stores like safeway make them. Cooking a dinner together would be cool. You can go shopping together and pick stuff out, even a homemade pizza would work.
KraftDinner Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 I don't think that's overdoing it. If I were you I'd probably take him out for dinner and get him a small, more sentimental/funny gift rather than a big flashy, expensive one. Think back to all your conversations and see if you can find a simple gift that relates to an inside joke you have or something of the sort. Good luck! Almost word-for-word what I was going to say.
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