tme0 Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Our first anniversary is next month. For our anniversary, I've gotten him this: - Egyptian Cotton bed sheets (I have some, and he loves them) - a necklace set (https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcSrVw01CkU47tF6wRPZIPsbtLzb8zuPPLxmIIHnoCSXepSf0XLWZw) I'm engraving my initials and our anniversary on his dog tags (he's in the military). Along with "I love you" on mine, I'm engraving our anniversary and his initials. I've made a short music video thing, with the song Here in Your Arms and compiled pictures to go along with it, taken throughout the year. I burned it onto a dvd And throughout the year, I've been making a small scrapbook of pictures we've taken on vacations, holidays, etc. The scrapbook isn't exactly for him, but I'm going to show it to him on our anniversary. I'm going to leave the last page blank, and we'll both do the last page with pictures we take on our anniversary. (He's been saying he'll help me scrapbook sometime) Is that good? Is it too much? Is it too cheesy?
Treasa Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 I think you should give him the sheets, see what he does or what he reciprocates with, and then do the rest. It just sounds like too much to me. Giving too much. Also, I think overly romantic stuff is wasted on a lot of guys. But he's your boyfriend, and I'm only giving my opinion.
AMusing Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Yeah, I have to agree with Treasa, that feels like a bit much to me too. If you want to give something sentimental you can always start with the necklace set. If he gives you more you can reciprocate with all the other stuff you have planned. If he doesn't, you can always give him the sheets a month or two from now as a surprise, "thinking of you" gift. Those kinds of gifts are awesome. Again, though, you know your relationship better than us, and maybe he's the kind of guy who'll love it. I am personally bigger on small & frequent gestures of love, and shy away from very romantic big gestures, so my advice is biased. I've only known one guy who really liked all that stuff. I was on the receiving end of the "anniversary gift overload" with that guy, and honestly it felt pretty crappy. I felt simultaneously guilty for not giving him more, and a little freaked out by how much he HAD done.
clia Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 I agree with the others that it seems way overboard, but you know your boyfriend better than we do.
GorillaTheater Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Also, I think overly romantic stuff is wasted on a lot of guys. But he's your boyfriend, and I'm only giving my opinion. You can never go wrong with a steak-and-a-blowjob. 1
mammasita Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 You can never go wrong with a steak-and-a-blowjob. Only if their anniversary is on March 14th. I agree, it sounds like too much. Most men don't give a damn about scrapbooks and mementos. I'm going to take it a step further and say the sheets are too much too. Obviously nobody here knows him though, so we could be wrong......
Author tme0 Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 Ok, well, we went to the mall, and he saw the dog tag set I had gotten him. He picked it up and messed around with it for a little and said that it was really cool. Oh and apprently the night before, I was talking about dog tags in my sleep... so he kept asking me about them the next day, and why I was talking about them. lol He saw the (wrapped up) sheets in my closet. He said they looked like bed sheets. He figured they were because I accidentally cut a hole in his sheets at his house, and whenever I go over I normally run my hand over the tear..so he figures I feel bad about it and that's why I'd get him new sheets. We were playing around and he opened one of my drawers, and saw the scrapbook (it has his name on it, and that caught his eye) he knows i keep scrapbooks in there, so he figured it was a scrapbook, probably of our relationship. He likes everything..so that's good. I never confirmed or denied any of his speculations though. The only thing that's a surprise is the video I made. Every surprise I've ever had for him, he's always guessed it before hand... lol
Star Gazer Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Pretty sure you can't or shouldn't alter his dog tags with romantic engravings if he's active duty or in the reserves. Plus, the symbolism of including love notes on dog tags (body identification tags for the deceased or unidentifiable service member) is kinda... creepy. So yeah, I'd give him the sheets and a BJ.
Janesays Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Sounds like a great gift....for a woman. But this is a straight man, no? So how about getting him something less likely to make him feel like a teenage little girl? With gift giving, try to remember that you're trying to please the OTHER PERSON, not yourself. I think something like this screams that you care more about 'expressing yourself' than giving your boyfriend something he would actually enjoy. ....says the girl who gives things like tickets to football games and/or electronics for romantic occasions. *shrugs 1
crederer Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 You put a lot of thought into it, which is nice, but it sounds more like something YOU would want from him. Give him the sheets, and say "let's break these bad boys in" or something. Totally would be awesome from a guys perspective. Bring the rest of the stuff along over the next couple of months.
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