UltimaWeapon Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 (edited) Hey loveshack I have been having extreme difficulty getting over my past relationship of 3 months. It ended end of February and I feel that I am having a much harder time getting over this then I did with my 4.5 year relationship ending because she got GIGS and left me for someone else. I truly feel I fell hard for this girl even if this was only 3 months she was everything I wanted in a girl and she had so many things in common with me that it was unreal the similarities that we shared. This relationship truly showed me how much more compatible she was with me then my ex of 4.5 years and I always told her how happy and how worth all the pain was to get to her in the end. However, looking back at all of this now I feel like I cared so much and got attached so quickly that it hit me like a ton of bricks when she pulled the plug. I knew getting involved with her was not the right decision but I couldn't help how I felt. She was off again and on again with her bf of 3 years, who moved overseas and I knew she had a lot of baggage coming into this. However, the more I got to know her the more I realized how many guys she has been with. Something inside me wanted to change her and to make her realize I was the best guy that she has ever been with and she would tell me that, however she told me after 3 months that she is not over her ex and she wants to be alone. I had a hard time accepting this because I assumed there was someone else and she has a history of going from guy to guy that shows her attention yet it comes back to my question. I know she was not the right girl for me, this was essentially a hookup for a bit- have fun date for a few months sort of thing. I could never get her to take it seriously because she could not tell her parents (religion issues) so I had to keep it a secret being with her which was also a huge red flag but I ignored all of this to be with her because I fell crazy in love right away. I KNOW SHE IS BAD FOR ME- YET WHY AM I STILL CRAZY ABOUT HER???!?!?! She probably lied to her "bf" from overseas when I told her she needs to cut off all ties with him. She prob just wanted me around for attention- sexual needs, whatever it may be. However, aside from all of this me and her shared a great time and I can't seem to forget her or move on. Part of this could be the fact that we have stayed in limited contact throughout the duration of the break up. I see her on campus and she will text me from to time. Also another big indicator of why its probably taking so long to get over this is because of the fact that after my 4.5 year relationship ended in 2010. I took a 2 year break from dating and just focused on myself- went to the gym, focused on building my friendships and social circle, and just did not want to hook up with any girls or deal with any drama. I wasn't emotionally or physically ready to be with anyone until she came along in November of 2012 and she just blew me away. I feel like the fact that I didn't put my emphasis on dating makes me feel like I can't find someone as good as her and it will take forever to want to be with someone again ** She would continue to text me and she told me she wants to "remain" close and be friends and I told her I can't do that. She has initiated the contact for a good duration of texts and last night she sent me a picture of this song that me and her listened to the first time we were together and how she says any time she hears them now it reminds her of me. I told her that i felt the same way but didn't understand why she would act like that if she wanted to be alone and single? So i lost my cool and just told her as best as I could that it would be best to not be in contact anymore unless she wants to fix things with me. She never replied to anything I said. What makes this hard is the fact that towards the end of the month we have our first COED Soccer game together- to which we are on the same team so that will be interesting seeing her and how I will handle it after everything. I made it a promise to myself that I would not leave the team even if we weren't together anymore- I gotta remain strong!! Thoughts???? Why would she continue to contact me and send me these things yet have no intention of getting back with me ??? Is it to feed her ego? To get attention from me? Knowing I still want her? Edited May 7, 2013 by UltimaWeapon
itto ogami Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 She sounds like an attention queen. And she wants it all. She is clearly dishonest with you and herself. Stay away.
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