Would you date a male stripper??

[MidwestUSA]

The graduation part or the going out with a stripper part?? Lol but thanks:)

Both, I saw no problem with going out with him. My stepdaughter strips, err, I mean dances, LOL!

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

Both, I saw no problem with going out with him. My stepdaughter strips, err, I mean dances, LOL!

 

Lol thanks

[ChessPieceFace]

No, I wouldn't date a male stripper. Not even out of curiosity.

[PogoStick]

I'm only half loser. If you want a step up from homeless then you're welcome to visit Iowa.

 

The inside scoop I was told about male strippers is 50% are gay. The straight ones hookup every single bachelorette party. Add in the aforementioned tendency to be dumb as a rock.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

I'm only half loser. If you want a step up from homeless then you're welcome to visit Iowa.

 

The inside scoop I was told about male strippers is 50% are gay. The straight ones hookup every single bachelorette party. Add in the aforementioned tendency to be dumb as a rock.

 

Actually on our date he told me some stories about hooking up with girls at the parties :/ idk I just don't feel a connection with him, like I know when I feel a connection with someone, you just have this feeling and I don't have that feeling. It makes me feel bad though because he is like "oh I really like you and I am deleting my profile and I want to see you" just a lot of stuff and I feel horrible because I feel like I should like him because he is attractive and he is into me but he is really kind of vain and like looks oriented. I was totally like that but then with my now ex he was so not the type I would go for and he clicked perfectly with me. I am not trying to compare him to my ex I am just like worried because I don't want to be mean... Him being a stripper isn't even the issue anymore it is more of him just talking about himself ALL THE TIME and he is really overly sexual which is kind of off-putting. I just want someone who doesn't try for sex I want to get to know the guy and fall in love and then have sex

Edited May 14, 2013 by ImperfectionisBeauty

[HoneyBadgerDontCare]

I dated a female stripper once. She was completely insane, but had a banging body.

 

She was also ridiculous in bed (as are most crazy girls).

[therhythm]

I'm only half loser. If you want a step up from homeless then you're welcome to visit Iowa.

 

The inside scoop I was told about male strippers is 50% are gay. The straight ones hookup every single bachelorette party. Add in the aforementioned tendency to be dumb as a rock.

 

Do I smell jealousy here? Don't tell me more, you are that guy who never get laid right? Just for your information, many of the guys who worked with me were university students (not really dumb) and great pals.

Actually on our date he told me some stories about hooking up with girls at the parties :/ idk I just don't feel a connection with him, like I know when I feel a connection with someone, you just have this feeling and I don't have that feeling. It makes me feel bad though because he is like "oh I really like you and I am deleting my profile and I want to see you" just a lot of stuff and I feel horrible because I feel like I should like him because he is attractive and he is into me but he is really kind of vain and like looks oriented. I was totally like that but then with my now ex he was so not the type I would go for and he clicked perfectly with me. I am not trying to compare him to my ex I am just like worried because I don't want to be mean... Him being a stripper isn't even the issue anymore it is more of him just talking about himself ALL THE TIME and he is really overly sexual which is kind of off-putting. I just want someone who doesn't try for sex I want to get to know the guy and fall in love and then have sex

 

I think you have defined it perfectly when you say it is not because he is a stripper, it is because he is just totally full of himself. You should dump him and not look back not because he is a stripper but because he is arrogant, stupid (who talks in a first date about past sexual encounters?), and totally self centered. And no, not all the strippers are like that, in fact many of the people who worked with me were university students that were very nice guys with nice conversation and great fun!

Sorry your experience didn't work out for you!

 

I can't think of a better first date conversation.

 

Let me tell you about all the women I screwed at parties with girls I wasn't even dating or who I knew their name. They've done studies, you know. 60% of the time it works, every time.

 

I often find myself having the same problem when the other person is telling me about all the people they screwed on a first date.

 

Wonder why that is?

 

Surely it couldn't be that I was SHOCKED and REPULSED that someone is that stupid and low class to think that is normal, acceptable or decent could it?

I'm sure that a stripper who told you about all the "strange" he has banged actually means this and has never said before.

 

I'm mean who thinks a guy would actually lie and said that stuff to get a piece of easy / gullible ass?

 

Till here I totally agree with you, someone who brag about his hookups in the first date is just stupid, there is no other word to describe him!

 

Character, morals, values, integrity, honest, won't cheat, etc.... Who needs those? Those are all Overrated!

Who would ever think or imagine a Male Stripper would be conceded, shallow, superficial and overly sexual?

 

Doesn't anyone else on LS think this sounds a little farfetched for a Male Stripper to think, feel or behave this way?

You have some pretty lofty goals and tough requirements of what you are looking for in a guy.

 

A Male Stripper who talks about all the women they have banged on a first date, superficial, shallow and overly sexual but knows that he likes you (when he doesn't know you because he only talks about himself and the women he has banged) and he will delete his profile.... Is EXACTLY what you said you were looking for.

Congratulations and finding such a wonderful, amazing and quality guy!

 

My advice...

 

Do not screw this up. Use protection and hope you don't get herpes or hepatitis. Don't worry he really will pay you back for that money he sure to ask to borrow.

 

You talk about morals very lightly, I guess it is not within your moral set to not be judgmental about people you don't know and accept other people's life choice.

I have been an stripper and (male) escort for many years and yes I do have values, honesty and integrity are important for me and I have NEVER cheated on anyone I had a relationship with. Surprised?

By the way if the stripper guy she is dating is half good in his job he is probably the one who can give a loan to her and not the other way around. Just by stripping you can make 10K $ per month easily, I would like to know how many people here can say the same... So stop your lame bs about people you don't know and don't understand.

 

You would not date a stripper? Great, we do have enough choices you know? If you think we are not right for you just give it a pass but you don't need to disrespect other people because they choose to live their life in a different way you did.

I would not expect someone with so much moral values and integrity to be so disrespectful and judgmental...

Edited May 14, 2013 by therhythm

[PogoStick]

Yeah I'm the jealous virgin on LS who is always complaining how I can't get women. Why so defensive?

 

Funny thing is the stripper convo I had was just last weekend, sparked by a bachelorette party walking in the door. Who better to tell me about male strippers than the girls who rent them?

[therhythm]

Yeah I'm the jealous virgin on LS who is always complaining how I can't get women. Why so defensive?

 

Funny thing is the stripper convo I had was just last weekend, sparked by a bachelorette party walking in the door. Who better to tell me about male strippers than the girls who rent them?

 

Hmm let me think about it... maybe the guys themselves!

Then again, probably those girls you met know all the strippers in the world and therefore have a real possibility to tell you all about them.

 

You know nothing mr. IgetgirlswhenIwant. Strippers are just persons like anyone else and you can't generalize over them because each of them are a different individual. For someone who thinks all the strippers are dumb you do not look very intelligent you know?

[therhythm]

Many students are strippers.

 

Strip clubs set to recruit high school students - Canada - Canoe.ca

 

I honestly don't have any idea what that has to do with what we were discussing here but as I said before... yes many strippers are students.

If by that you mean underage then I disagree, in the areas where I have worked I have never seen that happening and if I would have seen it I would have call the police about it.

[therhythm]

Obviously you haven't read the entire article. The article states some strippers are going to school to be doctors, lawyers, etc.

 

No I haven't read the whole article but actually what you say is my whole point!

I worked as stripper and I know many of the guys were actually studding law, engineering or even medicine so I know by first hand there are university students working as strippers, I don't need the article for that.

[therhythm]

If someone steals my car, totals it and gets caught... They go in front of a judge to be JUDGED and are held accountable for their actions.

Do you just go... Oh well, that person needed my car and even though I lost it, a lot of money and my transportation to work to provide for my family... that's okay.

How about the guy who gets a tattoo on the ride side of his face and a huge nose ring that wants to work at IBM and be in sales and sell into Fortune 100 companies at the Chief Executive level?

Is IBM suppose to hire him when a large majority of Chief Executives at Fortune 500 companies are going to have a problem with his face tattoo?

 

If I had committed a crime and you were a judge you would have the right to judge me as it is the task the society had charged you with.

If I were a sales man and I presented myself for a position in a company, the person responsible for hiring for that position would be in the right to judge if I am the right person for that position.

The fact is that no one here has asked you for your opinion about our life style, it is unsolicited and in my case totally unwelcome... Who has named you the judge of morality and integrity of male strippers?

 

 

Say what you want you are going to be spending an awful lot of time trying to convince a large majority of people in this world that Males Strippers and Escorts are relationship / material.

 

We don't live in a theoretical world and unfortunately people do make assumptions and judge.

 

I don't need to spend any time explaining people that I am relationship material, I am very upfront about who I am and if someone wants to have a relationship with me needs to accept me exactly as I am. I actually very picky when it comes to relationships and I don't have much experience with it too but I know what I want and I know what I can give. There is plenty of women who would want to give it a try

 

 

For me, I don't want to sell my body or my services (escort) to earn a living money and I don't want to be with someone who does either.

And you are in your total right to do so, it won't be me the one who will tell you how to live your life, I just expect the same courtesy from you!

 

 

I wouldn't date a felon, a drug dealer, someone in a gang, someone who is bi-sexual, someone who has domestic violence issues, someone with addictions, someone who is on welfare, someone with kids, someone who is divorced, someone who isn't my race or religion, etc..

 

Does that make me disrespectful or judgmental... No, it's my preference of who / what I want, it's what I am attracted too and what I have in common

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No, having a dating criteria doesn't make you disrespectful, you have the right to date whom ever you want but writing in a forum saying that all strippers are dishonest, cheaters, lacking integrity and more likely to ask you for money they will not return to you is what makes you disrespectful moreover when as you have said you do not move in the same circle as strippers do and therefore you have NO idea about how we are or how we live.

In my dating criteria I just need to have someone who is a good person at the moment I met her, I don't really care what has she done in her past but I will definitely add one more criteria to it, I don't date judgmental people who need to put down other people to feel better with themselves.

 

Give it a rest dude... You knew this before going into the male stripping and escorting profession. Don't bust my balls because this male stripper in this story happens to be the stereotype of what the large majority of the population would think or expect from a male stripper.

 

Yes I knew before I entered in the stripping and escorting profession that I would be judged for that but I don't see how because I knew something would happen it becomes the right thing to do. As OP has already mention in her post, this guy is an idiot, you can find many idiots in the world who do not work as strippers, actually this forum is full of women complaining about their (non stripper) partners for being cheaters, not caring, not communicative, extremely jealous, etc... Can I then think that everyone who is not a stripper is a cheater, not caring, not communicative, jealous bastard?

Just live and let live, you lose to much time complaining about other people life style instead of living your own!

[Eve]

Just imagining the repeating of the above unfolding story one night being told to the children the OP so wants to have one day ..

 

'I had just graduated and your dad was a stripper at the time..'

 

As a film, I would probably watch it, real life, no.

 

Take care,

Eve x

[therhythm]

I will keep answering you because your tone has changed a lot and you seem more respectful:). I am not going to lose any of my time to answer the other people in this thread who are only speaking about some people they don't know and about a lifestyle they do not understand. Let them keep thinking they are in higher level or something, if that makes them happy:rolleyes:

 

Point out where I told the OP what to do and not to date him? Based on the criteria of solely his profession? Point out where I said ALL strippers were dishonest, cheaters, lacking integrity and would bum money.

 

See bellow quotes.

Character, morals, values, integrity, honest, won't cheat, etc.... Who needs those? Those are all Overrated!

Do not screw this up. Use protection and hope you don't get herpes or hepatitis. Don't worry he really will pay you back for that money he sure to ask to borrow

 

 

 

Assuming the OP's guy wasn't a stripper... Everything he has said and so far... I would assume he is full of crap, dishonest and likely to bum her for money.

 

If indeed you did those comments not because the guy is a stripper but because his behavior accept my apologies but it didn't seem that way.

 

 

Does the OP's Stripper BF match the (rightly or wrongly) stereotype of what most people think of how a Male Stripper will behave on a date? YES.

 

Is that going to change anytime soon? NO.

 

I don't know what is the stereotype of male strippers and I can't care less about it. We are all different individuals with totally different goals and behavior.

 

I frankly didn't give a crap what the guy did... He lost me when he was telling her about all the girls he banged (the ladies he striped in front of) on a first date.

 

Yeah... they guy is an idiot, shame that for once a girl in this forum decides to date one stripper she chose the moron of the day!

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

Yes, you did have it wrong.

 

I made my comments about integrity, values, morals, character directly after I only quoted the following from the OP:

 

 

 

It had nothing to do with the guy at that point and was 100% a jab at OP for her shallowness and superficial thinking. Everything she said was about either his job or looks or him wanting her. No mention or care of who / what this guy is on the inside.

 

Ok let me address that, I said I feel like I should like him, because he likes me. If you have ever read any of my posts on here I talk a lot about my difficulty dating and finding someone I am attracted to and who is attracted to me and who is ok with me having cerebral palsy. He doesn't care, he said he respects me for dealing with it. So I wasn't saying I should like him because he is hot, I am saying he accepts me and he is attractive and seems nice (he seems nice but also shallow and arrogant...). I think I said a few pages back that beggars can't be choosers.. That's my mentality but at the same time you just know when you don't click with someone.

[SmileFace]

Even though I think you should be heading in the opposite direction with this boy - it is refreshing that you aren't jumping at him for the mere fact that he is accepting.

[sillyanswer]

You don't owe this guy to be interested in him just because he is interested in you.

 

Next time someone starts a "what message would you send back in time to your younger self" thread I'll try to remember this one. It's great advice!

[Eve]

Ok let me address that, I said I feel like I should like him, because he likes me. If you have ever read any of my posts on here I talk a lot about my difficulty dating and finding someone I am attracted to and who is attracted to me and who is ok with me having cerebral palsy. He doesn't care, he said he respects me for dealing with it. So I wasn't saying I should like him because he is hot, I am saying he accepts me and he is attractive and seems nice (he seems nice but also shallow and arrogant...). I think I said a few pages back that beggars can't be choosers.. That's my mentality but at the same time you just know when you don't click with someone.

 

I think it is progress that you are looking for and questioning if that click really is there and not jumping straight in. The mentality that beggars can't be choosers should be less likely to win out and get you into trouble as long as you follow the click idea to it's true end.

 

That takes a lot of self discipline though..

 

Take care,

Eve x

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

How do I end this? He is taking a job at a club near me to be closer... I'm like unsure of how to nicely put an end to this.

[MidwestUSA]

How do I end this? He is taking a job at a club near me to be closer... I'm like unsure of how to nicely put an end to this.

Well, you know what NOT to do, right? You don't just fade away. Tell him thanks, you had a nice time, but you don't think you and he have a lot in common. Good luck!

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

Well, you know what NOT to do, right? You don't just fade away. Tell him thanks, you had a nice time, but you don't think you and he have a lot in common. Good luck!

 

It makes me sad that I am going to hurt him, he is like saying that he is "maybe falling for me" it is like insane. One thing this has made me realize is I can talk to anyone about anything and I can pretty much make people like me... If that makes sense (in person probably not on online forums like Loveshack haha) I don't necessarily think I will be forever single..

[Mme. Chaucer]

How do I end this? He is taking a job at a club near me to be closer... I'm like unsure of how to nicely put an end to this.

 

I'm glad you aren't going to try to get pregnant by him just because he's good looking and is interested in you -

 

but please, get realistic. You don't have anything to "end." It was just ONE DATE. If he thinks he's starting up a life with you, of course you do need to tell him that you won't be going out with him anymore because you don't feel the connection you need with him, but please don't put a huge weight on this.

 

You "met" him on line about a week ago, and as of 5/9 had not even met in person. So, it's really not a thing now.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

I'm glad you aren't going to try to get pregnant by him just because he's good looking and is interested in you -

 

but please, get realistic. You don't have anything to "end." It was just ONE DATE. If he thinks he's starting up a life with you, of course you do need to tell him that you won't be going out with him anymore because you don't feel the connection you need with him, but please don't put a huge weight on this.

 

You "met" him on line about a week ago, and as of 5/9 had not even met in person. So, it's really not a thing now.

 

No we went on a date Sunday. He just talked about himself the whole time and his ex basically, now he like calls every night and is sayin how he's going to so at a club near me. I think I am just going to say I am talking to my ex again, my therapist said I could say that if need be.

 

I actually haven't thought about babies too too much lately, I am trying to job search now, I guess that would be useful before having a baby lol and I am thinking of grad school in NC! I still hope I meet someone soon like in the next year or so so I can have babies by 25 or 26. I know my flings are going to change probably and ill be back on here complaining about team single but hey... It happens

[therhythm]

Pfff what a drama post... just dump him, after what I read you are making him a favor after all...

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

Pfff what a drama post... just dump him, after what I read you are making him a favor after all...

 

At least I didn't make a new topic for this one thing... Seriously what's your problem?! Sorry I'm not a rude bitch, I don't want to hurt the kids feelings.