mikeyv44 Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 my ex and i broke up 3 months ago to this day. we had a good time together and never fought. we were together for 6 months, until one day she broke up with me because she got in a fight with her ex-boyfriend before me she dated for 5 years. she sad that she realized she wasn't completely over him, but didn't want him back. she said that it was "bad timing" that we met so soon after the breakup. (we met one week after she broke up with him). after we broke up, she said that she wanted to be friends, and said that i wasn't some rebound, but just bad timing. she said she just needs time to work on herself, and she doesn't want to be that person who constantly jumps from relationship to relationship. i found out from a friend this weekend that she has another boyfriend now, and i noticed that she blocked me on facebook. i texted her to wonder why would she block me in the first place, but also why she told me the whole "bad timing" as a reason that we broke up. she said it's none of my business to know what she does with her life after we broke up. i have been so devastated these last 3 months, and it would have been better if she just told me tha she wanted to see other people instead. at least i would have known, and had some sense of closure. still, she is in yet another relationship already, after all the whole i don't want to be that girl who jumps around talk. i am so upset and devastated. i feel like she was just lying to me, and that she isn't a good person. is that wrong of me to think this way?
lonewalker Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 I dont think its wrong to feel that way. U r truthful to her until the end. Being honest about ur own feelings. But she didnt. And u r right to feel like a complete fool. U ought to be angry with her for doing that. I think moving on is a right thing for u to do And it would be easier since u know she wasnt telling u the truth right from the start.
GI_Joy Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 She just sounds very immature and I'm sorry that she just dropped you and basically went behind her word. Sadly there are people out there that you think are what they say they are, but really, they're the opposite (if that made any sense whatsoever lol). But she clearly has some issues to sort through (serial monogamy, much?). Perhaps she has some GIGS. Either way, she needs to grow up.
GI_Joy Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/251986-grass-greener-syndrome
UltimaWeapon Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 (edited) Oh man this sounds so scary at how similar this is to my situation. My ex of 3 months said the exact same thing to me. She also broke up wit her on again off again boyfriend of 3 years - who left overseas- and was not coming back to be with me. She essentially cheated on him with me because when we got together and hooked up she was still "with" him. Problem with this is, I took this too seriously while she probably saw this as something for the time being and something fun to do. I got attached and I realized how messed up the situation was because the more I was with her the more I realized how often she did this. during her duration with her ex. Both of them were liek sociopaths staying together - but cheating on each other with other people. After 3 months she just told me I can't be with you anymore. I feel like I have been in this relationship for 2 years I can't handle it . its too much for me. I am not over my ex and I want to be alone. This wasn't a rebound its just I am not ready for anything more- When i am and I want to be with you again we can be --__-- It hit me like a ton of bricks man and I felt like a complete moron because I spent a crap ton of money on her, driving her around, buying her gifts, food, etc you name it. I felt played and I felt used because I felt she just wanted me around for the attention and sex. It felt horrible man and to this day It still does because I do not know what kind of person can do that. She is like a man eater or player or something I dono how else to describe it. I KNOW SHE IS BAD FOR ME YET I STILL WANT HER WHY???!!? I also assumed she was with someone else- Someone from our COED soccer team who I saw on social media sites that she was chilling with him. I found out later that they were "seeing" each other apperently from a close frend. When I confronted her about it she said nothing ever happened and if she was gona be with someone she wouldnt hide it. Either way I will never know the truth. However, seeing how she is I am torn between two sides because a part of me wants her the other part knows she is bad and will crush me even more. She has a history of going from guy to guy- and she also told me she wants to not do that anymore. I don't know anymore I thought I was a good judge of character but she completely side tracked me and to think she could be intimate with me for 3 months for so many times and just drop me to the curb just like that and have no attachment (seemingly insane) it boggles my mind as to how someone can just do that? * MINE ENDED END OF FEBURARY * Going onto third month now. Time seems to be going so fast yet the feelings are not fading away. whats worse is that my COED LEague starts end of MAY and I will be seeing her again- I told myself I will not leave the team because of her. I gotta remain strong. Edited May 7, 2013 by UltimaWeapon
Author mikeyv44 Posted May 7, 2013 Author Posted May 7, 2013 if i were you ultima i wouldn't do that soccer league. i know you want to but its best for you not to do that. any girl's perspective on what my ex is thinking?
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