mikeyv44 Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 my ex and i broke up 3 months ago to this day. we had a good time together and never fought. we were together for 6 months, until one day she broke up with me because she got in a fight with her ex-boyfriend before me she dated for 5 years. she sad that she realized she wasn't completely over him, but didn't want him back. she said that it was "bad timing" that we met so soon after the breakup. (we met one week after she broke up with him). after we broke up, she said that she wanted to be friends, and said that i wasn't some rebound, but just bad timing. she said she just needs time to work on herself, and she doesn't want to be that person who constantly jumps from relationship to relationship. i found out from a friend this weekend that she has another boyfriend now, and i noticed that she blocked me on facebook. i texted her to wonder why would she block me in the first place, but also why she told me the whole "bad timing" as a reason that we broke up. she said it's none of my business to know what she does with her life after we broke up. i have been so devastated these last 3 months, and it would have been better if she just told me tha she wanted to see other people instead. at least i would have known, and had some sense of closure. still, she is in yet another relationship already, after all the whole i don't want to be that girl who jumps around talk. i am so upset and devastated. i feel like she was just lying to me, and that she isn't a good person. is that wrong of me to think this way?
cdt76 Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 She is a coward. And a liar. It's ok to be mad and it's ok to dislike her. 1
Smokemirrors Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 It's ok but it's also something you should not take too much time to dwell upon. You no longer together so it's ok for her to be with other people and it's ok for you to be with other people. 1
crederer Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 I can understand why you'd be upset. As the other person said, she's a coward.
intigo Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Most people are afraid to say the truth when they break up with you. Some dont want to hurt you others are cowards others are just stupid. I never heard someone say '' hey, i found someone else i think is better than you, bye bye'' but i heard ''its not you, its me'' ''i love you but im not in love with you'' '' you deserve someone better'' and then a week later you find out that they see someone else **** them. You just avoided a person that is no good for you. 1
mbee Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 She's a total coward. That's why she blocked you on Facebook, in the hopes that you wouldn't find out. Let's be honest too. She said she doesn't want to jump from relationship to relationship. Here's what I learned from my ex. People have unhealthy behaviors. Almost all of us have something we do continually. I truly believe your ex knows she has issues and knows that she uses relationships to feel comfortable. Perhaps she wanted to change. Who knows? But she didn't and is doing exactly what she said she wouldn't. It's normal to feel disappointed in your ex. My ex has a problem with lying and manipulation. I want him to change and he says he wants that too, but it's his life and it's easier for people to fall into patterns than do anything about them. I think she knows your disappointment and maybe deep down she knows she's being stupid. But it's her life, her mistakes and her choices. In the end it'll be one relationship after another and she'll find herself miserable at the end. It's hard to accept but it's much better to just avoid people with these problems. Otherwise we just keep being disappointed by them and struggling to watch them make foolish choices. It's okay to be upset and dislike her. 3
Author mikeyv44 Posted May 9, 2013 Author Posted May 9, 2013 thank you mbee, your reply was truely helpful. i just wish i can figure out the thought process in her head, but i guess i will never know. you are right though. it's her life, and even though i'm upset about it there is nothing i can do about it.
richard9 Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 Yeah its good to be mad man, take that fire and use it for something positive, hit the gym, pound some punch bags, use it to aspire you to better yourself and do something new, use it.
AKisBaked Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 (edited) Went through something like what your going through. And it's understandable to be angry and upset with her. I don't blame you. Like what other's posted she's just a f*cking coward. She's a sneak. and can't come clean. She rather let things unfold itself instead of telling you up straight. My ex did that to me. She didn't say nothing to me until I found out that she was in a new relationship. And when I kept asking her why didn't you just tell me she would just lie. You feel this way is because the person you thought that you could trust and gave your trust betrays you like this. THEY LIED TO YOU and that's a big thing. From someone who you can share everything with and then they do a full 360 on you like they are a complete stranger. Go ahead and be mad, you have every right to. Now you know that this person isn't so "great" or "nice" girl that you thought they were. There no better than a snake that's trying to poison you. Suppress your anger with someone else. Ditch this b*tch!! Edited May 10, 2013 by AKisBaked 1
Recommended Posts