BrokenPrincess Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Actually, after a 2 hours yoga class tonight, I'm feeling about 10 different kinds of stupid.:o:o I think I made something out of a whole lot of nothing. It, more than likely, was nothing more than it appeared to be. Granted, Friday's contact was a little odd but again...nothing to get excited about. DO, what happened in yoga? You sound like you're gaslighting yourself You should trust your gut...xMM doesn't reach out to his xOW for unnecessary things for no reason...
Author DelusionalOne Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 DO, what happened in yoga? You sound like you're gaslighting yourself You should trust your gut...xMM doesn't reach out to his xOW for unnecessary things for no reason... Yoga just gives me a chance to think. Put things in perspective. I do tend to over-react. I don't know what "gaslighting" means. 1
Praying4Peace Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 DO- I know it must be really hard. It's so easy to psych yourself up and say 'hell no you better not talk to me!" but later on your second guess yourself...was it really a breadcrumb? Am I reading into it? Does he care? What was his intent? Truth is that he could have answered all of the above questions using his words. When my son was 2 he couldn't talk and would use sign language and attention seeking moves and throw things at the cabinets when he wanted a glass of water. Your exMM is full grown and if he had something to say, AND was serious about it, he would approach you to discuss AND at that point its all just words anyways which we know don't mean a whole lot. So try not to worry about it. If you don't want to contact someone, even about work related things, you can find ten different ways to get around it. Ask someone else, etc. He is passively trying to hint that its okay for you to approach him again. THATS WHAT MY GUT IS TELLING ME. That way later on when there's another Dday or similar heart wrenching events, he can tell you that you started it again, you went along, you went after him (and it'll be easier to tell his W this too). That's why its called crumbs I always thought- you leave them and let the little birdie hop along to destruction. At least you know he's thinking of you. But it also shows he's selfish bc he should know how hurt you are after Dday and he's setting it up for another (and that goes for his W too...he's the only one who'll be A-OK, not left out in the dust bc one of his two adoring fans will take him in). Pissed off yet? 2 hours of yoga sounds sooooo good!
Author DelusionalOne Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 Simple. He misses you & is looking for any opportunity to contact you. If I were you, I'd take it as a compliment that you meant something to him but continue to keep yourself separated from him. Many of us would love a chance like this. Stop it! Your desire for validation is illogical. You do not need to be augmented by OM. :-) I hope you're talking to SB1... I didn't say it.
Praying4Peace Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Oh and one more thing- don't 'gaslight' yourself into thinking it was a coincidence. Of course he loved his EA with you. You're awesome! I can tell just by your posts. But be EXTRA Awesome and insist on your entire worth...or better yet find a guy who isn't such a pansy, wuss, liar, creepoid. 4
Author DelusionalOne Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 DO- I know it must be really hard. It's so easy to psych yourself up and say 'hell no you better not talk to me!" but later on your second guess yourself...was it really a breadcrumb? Am I reading into it? Does he care? What was his intent? Truth is that he could have answered all of the above questions using his words. When my son was 2 he couldn't talk and would use sign language and attention seeking moves and throw things at the cabinets when he wanted a glass of water. Your exMM is full grown and if he had something to say, AND was serious about it, he would approach you to discuss AND at that point its all just words anyways which we know don't mean a whole lot. So try not to worry about it. If you don't want to contact someone, even about work related things, you can find ten different ways to get around it. Ask someone else, etc. He is passively trying to hint that its okay for you to approach him again. THATS WHAT MY GUT IS TELLING ME. That way later on when there's another Dday or similar heart wrenching events, he can tell you that you started it again, you went along, you went after him (and it'll be easier to tell his W this too). That's why its called crumbs I always thought- you leave them and let the little birdie hop along to destruction. At least you know he's thinking of you. But it also shows he's selfish bc he should know how hurt you are after Dday and he's setting it up for another (and that goes for his W too...he's the only one who'll be A-OK, not left out in the dust bc one of his two adoring fans will take him in). Pissed off yet? 2 hours of yoga sounds sooooo good! He can "hint" all he wants.... it's not going to happen. If this site taught me anything it's walk away and never look behind you again. He's not setting me up. Been there done that. I now know that none of it was real.... not one single bit. I feel a little stupid that I was played so easily and no way in hell I'm willing to walk that road again. But hey.... forewarned is forearmed...right? 3
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