ToyStoryThree Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 ...and, to be honest, I'm still not over her. After an extremely messy BU and several failed attempts at being friends, we no longer talk. The last time I spoke to her was about a week ago - another failed attempt at being friends (she's happy now, and doesn't want to). I *think* she's with someone else, now and she's moved away but...I just can't seem to get over her. I miss her so much. I'm still in love with her, but she doesn't even want to be friends! It's driving me mad - I am doing everything correctly, but the feelings are still there. Of course, I want to contact her but...how could I really? What would I say? She'd probably just bitch about me to whoever, or block me or whatever. I just can't help thinking that she loved me once, so surely she can't want to NEVER speak to me, again?
LoveB86 Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 (edited) Dude, you got to stop it! 5 months of this and you are sounding so weak! It's ugly and unattractive man!! Please, please, please, please don't do this to yourself. Cut her out of your life right now! You should of had done that from the beginning, maybe, just maybe things would of been different. I know how you feel, I am a dumpee, I got cheated on and on top of that, I work with both him and his gf. You know, I am tempted in every way to confront them both everyday and all day in their face! BUT I DON'T!! NEVER WILL!! I have too much respect for myself to let another individual make me feel like they have my self power! No way, I am hurt, YES, but he won't ever see me sweat. Don't let her see you sweat!! Let her go!! NC for good!! You would finally get yourself back if you do this. It is having self control of the temptation of not contacting her, so that you can move on and be happy again. When you are happy again, you will look attractive to someone else who will give you their time and day and you will look back, and laugh that you wasted 5 months of your time on someone who doesn't deserve your attention! Please do this!! Edited May 7, 2013 by LoveB86 2
carteblanche Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Start NC immediately. You've delayed your recovery by five months.
soccerrprp Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Messy breakup. Several failed attempts at being friends....IT'S OVER. Move on and as others have suggested, go full NC. It's you're only hope of recovery and try to find someone else. 1
Author ToyStoryThree Posted May 7, 2013 Author Posted May 7, 2013 Thanks guys - all that you've all said is true, I guess sometimes I just need to hear it!
LoveB86 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Keep your head up toystorythree. I know how you feel and am sorry for what you are going thru. It's not your loss, it's her's. Now find your winner Just wait and give yourself sometime. It'll be all behind you sweetheart!! Trust me. I went thru a breakup of an ex of 4 1/2 years. I never would of thought I"ll be over him. It took me a little over 6 months, but it got better! Now it's been 2 years and I don't even think about him as much. Find your winner when you get better 2
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