kaws Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Hi guys, so I've been going through alot these past few months/weeks Here's the story. So I met a girl back in October, started talking, got to know each other and gradually moved into a relationship. After a few months (3-4months) She started getting very distant, and I felt as if I was being pushed away. She text me and said "I think I'm not ready to be in a relationship" so the relationship ended and she kept apologizing. She told me that she was sorry and that she shouldn't of jumped into a relationship with me without fixing prior issues from the past. So I did NC and didn't talk to her for a month. Last sunday I saw her at church and went up to hug her and asked her if it was ok to talk that night. We talked sunday night and cleared everything up. She apologized and I told her how I felt about the situation. I told her that we should forget about the situation and start fresh and be friends and take it slow. She aggreed. After the conversation it switched to us staying all night and talking and it felt like the old times when we stay up late at night and talk. I ended the conversation and we hung up. Now I'm not sure where to go from here. A part of me wants her back because I miss her, but a part of me still understands that shes not ready for a relationship. And I dont want to smother her with text messages just because were "just friends" now. I wanted to be just friends so that things between us are not awkward considering the fact that we have mutual friends. But I don't know what to do right now. I'm really confused
Infnitysign Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Nothing is confusing, but your view of the present relationship as "just friends". You want more at the moment, but consider your mutual friends and your "girl's" feelings. It's nice to take it slow and savor the moments where its calm and sweet. It takes two to commit to a long term relationship and don't force it upon yourself to fuel the need to be together all the time. 1
Author kaws Posted May 7, 2013 Author Posted May 7, 2013 Thank you @Infnitysign for the reply. I guess, regardless of the "friend" title it's best for me to still do No Contact 1
Pisces13 Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 You can still be friends with her, just keep your emotions in check, and don't have any expectations. Enjoy the relationship for what it is at this point in time, a friendship. You need to give her time and space to work herself out, if she ever wants to pursue a relationship in future, she will let you know. Obviously if you feel as though you can't do that, then NC would be the way to go, but only you know how this whole situation is making you feel inside, you need to decide for yourself how to best handle it accordingly. 1
Author kaws Posted May 7, 2013 Author Posted May 7, 2013 I will give her time and space to work herself out, and hope that if she ever wants to pursue a relationship in future, she will let me know, only time will tell, but I won't dwell on that. And just move on and Do my own thing. I guess saying hi to her on occassions, and just keeping it short is what I will do, and go out Work out, date, work, and get myself back on my feet. 1
SNH1993 Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Man, this is exactly how i feel about my ex gf. She still comes over almost every day and spends the night and everything is good when we see each other. A lot of times she initiates conversation but then there is times when she doesn't text or talk all day and i don't want to be the one to text because then i feel like i am just bothering her because i figure if she wanted to talk, she would. I know how it feels man
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