ilovelee Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Hi , I am new to this forum but I have been looking at it all the time since I broke up with my gf about 6 months ago. Basically for about 6 weeks she became very distant and then I found out that she fell in love with another guy that she met online. I went into NC and I was doing fine the past couple months. I texted her to get coffee to catch up and she agreed. Afterwards she texted me if I wanted to get dinner and I said yes. After dinner I got a stream of texts basically saying that she missed hanging out with me and talking to me and that there were feelings that came back up when she saw me. She told me that the thing with the other guy is over. I don't know what her intentions are and she asked to see me again before I graduate. I'm a senior in college.
Pisces13 Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 I don't think she really knows either... she probably does genuinely miss you etc. but unless she straight out says "I made a horrible mistake, I'm so sorry, I want to give it another shot", don't look too much in to it.
Stay Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Personally what I see is her wanting you back.. Why don't you ask her straight up what does she feel or want? Obviously she's wondering also and maybe waiting for you to do something about it.
Author ilovelee Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 Update: She came over and said she missed me and wants me and wants to try things again. I don't know what to do. I expressed some doubt and she became upset. She wants me and wants to do long distance and now I feel guilty because I know in my heart that I don't feel anything for her.
swiftly333 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 If you don't have feelings for her then you have to be honest with her. Don't lead her on.
Author ilovelee Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 I think that is best. She is my first and only love but i am too scared to trust her again. I was pretty devastated when we broke up and I definitely do not want that again.
Author ilovelee Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 I told her I love her and its true. She said the same back. But I feel like I am too young to date seriously and I have been happy the way I am. I just find it hard to believe anything she says anymore. I want to be friends and be able to talk to her for the rest of my life. I love her even though she broke my heart. But I think I am more afraid of being hurt than anything else. I am afraid that she will find someone else and leave me again. It is so difficult to let go however.
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