Tink19 Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Me and my ex broke up 8 days ago and I miss him a lot. We dated a few months over a year. He said he wasn't ready/mature for a relationship. He was always super busy. He's leaving all summer to work and he didn't want to leave me alone like that too (and no he didn't want to flirt with girls, he's working with family). He isn't going to date for a couple years he said. I've seen him a couple times and it's so awkward. We don't speak to each other and I just can't look at him and forget how important he was to me. I miss hearing from him. I kinda flirted with guys the last time we were near each other and I guess he got upset and knows why we broke up now and didn't think I liked him while we were dating. :/ Idk how to show I'm hurt but move on then? I miss us so much! We had the best times together and I just can't make him a stranger like that. He was a great guy despite him not being ready and the small problems that caused. After we broke up I asked if he wanted to be friends and he said we'll see what happens. I told him I didn't want to completely remove him from my life. Advice?
Toddbt12y1 Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Best to wait and see. You can't rush a friendship without his willingness. Though. I personally think he's backing entirely out. I believe it to be rather broad statement to say he'd even remain single for two years. I've heard people say this before. Either you wait or move on. Not many options.
GI_Joy Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 I'll tell ya right now, from my experience, waiting sucks. Depending on how you are with emotions and feelings about what you had, it really truly hurts to hold on to something with the hopes that the other person will come around. I'm sorry to hear this happened to you. It sucks when something that's been so good ends in that manner. Do what you feel will be best for you and your happiness. Don't follow the relationship or wait for it to manifest again if you know you're going to be miserable over the fact that it does not exist at the moment. Be open to the possibility that it may never happen, and be prepared for that as well. It isn't fair to you at all to put your life on hold waiting for someone to come around, I know how hard it must be to let someone go because "they're not ready" or "not mature enough", but that's his responsibility and not yours. You should not be in a position to have to prove yourself to him, because you know in your heart that you're willing to be there. The fact of the matter is, he does not see it working right now. If he gets angry with you moving on, well, you shouldn't be guilty about it, because it was his decision to let you go. Either he mans up for you or you recognize what you deserve, and someone who IS ready to be there for you will step up to that plate. Good luck.
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