aisuru Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 I know I miss him for some of the wrong reasons. Some of the right reasons. I came very close to emailing him last night. I didn't. I know I shouldn't so I don't. I'm pretty strong most of the time. I know this is for the best. I just miss him right now. I miss him in my life. Bad habits are hard to break. I know this is for the best. I can't stop wondering if he's thought of me at all. I wonder if he misses me. I know it doesn't matter. I miss him...
agb Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 The most important thing, like you said, it doesn't matter. I don't know your story but I'm guessing he left. Even if he does think of you, he knows you care and love him. He's still made the decision regardless. It's a tough phase, but we'll get through it. 1
Frank13 Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Aisuru, if you replaced "him" with "her" I could have posted this. Been 16 months and been doing well. So much better than the first year. Thought I was pretty much over her and are no contact but today I really miss her. Of course I won't contact her. She made it very clear at the end how she felt (actually didn't feel) for me so I have to just keep moving on. 1
Author aisuru Posted May 7, 2013 Author Posted May 7, 2013 Thank you for responding. I'm on the cusp of writing something to him. Know I shouldn't. Angry, hurt, confused. At the end of the day, I was sending the message I didn't want to be with him. So shouldn't be a surprise he broke up with me. But I miss him. Stalking his twitter tonight which I haven't done since breakup. Actually never paid attention to his twitter during our relationship (he's not on Facebook and Twitter isn't my thing). Found somebody that hurts, but is likely nothing. Or could be something. Wondering if it's his last ex? I don't know... So all the more reason I now want to write him. He lives 2 blocks away and wasn't home earlier when I came home. So now, thinking the worst. I just want to know if he misses me too or thinks of me too. So hard. I'm usually tougher than this. Ugh.
Sav Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 No one is superhuman. Don't beat yourself up over this. I miss the comfort that my ex gives me too. It hurts to think about it. Then I think about the quarrels we had, the fights that happened between us and it's really not that bad not having her in my life. Don't just think about what you miss. Think about what actually happened during the relationship. And just hang in there till this "phase" pass. It will pass. And it will come again. Then pass. Till it no longer comes. Be strong 2
ballycastle Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 No one is superhuman. Don't beat yourself up over this. I miss the comfort that my ex gives me too. It hurts to think about it. Then I think about the quarrels we had, the fights that happened between us and it's really not that bad not having her in my life. Don't just think about what you miss. Think about what actually happened during the relationship. And just hang in there till this "phase" pass. It will pass. And it will come again. Then pass. Till it no longer comes. Be strong yes I share everything written on this. I miss my ex post 15 months, thought it would be easier with time, but I am up and down, especially with warm weather and doing things together. The brain is a funny thing...just reminds you of stuff you don't want it to. Wished it reminded you of the things that weren't so good. I managed to keep a diary of al the problems throughout that I read to remind me of the hurtful things he said and did. perhaps you could think about those? It's hard I know, but I share your feelings. And of course they are thinking of you. I bumped into my ex a few weeks ago and he said, 'It's good to see you.' I didn't say anything but wanted to scream BUT YOU LEFT ME, YOU DID THIS!! Of course I didn't, left really cooly and vowed to never bump into him again in this mutual place so I don't have to be in more pain. Keep posting 1
sedona Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 My current coping mechanism when I find myself missing my guy—which is a lot recently—is to make a mental image of my hands shoving those melancholic thoughts away, while thinking (loudly, if you can do that): "Push away". My loud thoughts drown out those stupid, sad, pointless ones. At least for a little while. 1
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