Author tuxedo cat Posted May 8, 2013 Author Posted May 8, 2013 He also told me that he doesn't want to hear about any guys I've been with and that it hurts him too much. It's weird.
Janesays Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Why do you think he keeps contacting me? I never initiate. Ego boost. It's flattering to have some girl meekly fawn all over you. 1
CarrieT Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Here is the secret about being friends with ex's: It can only happen after both parties have 100% fully healed from the romantic relationship and there is no longing desire anymore. I am good friends with most of my ex's but those friendships could not occur as soon as the romantic relationship had ended; there is still too many emotions that whirl around for either party to be able to objectively look and deal with the friendship. Step away from this guy for a while. You are still hurt and have feelings for him. Maybe the friendship can come back, but not yet - and not until YOU are ready to hear things like "obsessive crushes" and whatnot.
ChessPieceFace Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 called me for the first time in four months... -He had dated and slept with a couple of girls -He told me he has an obsessive crush on some girl in one of his classes who reminds him of a younger version of me. He made it sound as if she has all of the unique things that he liked about me. She isn't even into him and they're not dating but he says he has fallen for her. He went into all this detail about his feelings for her, like how he gets a rush inside when they accidentally make eye contact, and how her big, deep eyes are his "weakness." -I told him I still love him. He said he loves me very much, misses me a ton and thinks about me every day but doesn't want a relationship with me ever and has no romantic feelings for me left. Why do you think he keeps contacting me? I never initiate. He told you he slept around, is obsessed with another girl and flat out told you the part in bold. How much clearer could a guy get?? I don't know his reasons but they aren't to go out with you. Could be ego, genuine friendship, emotional garbage dump, who knows. You're clinging to some fleeting hope that your "true love" will want you again. I can't say with certainty that will never happen, but there is every indication that it won't. You're clinging to the friendship with him partly because you hope it will become more. I've been where you are - irrationally obsessed with someone. I'm telling you, you're just torturing yourself by keeping him in your life. There are many great guys out there and most of them don't even have herpes. Time to move on from herpes-guy-who-doesn't-like-you. The sooner you do, the sooner you can find the guy you're really "meant for."
Author tuxedo cat Posted May 9, 2013 Author Posted May 9, 2013 He told you he slept around, is obsessed with another girl and flat out told you the part in bold. How much clearer could a guy get?? I don't know his reasons but they aren't to go out with you. Could be ego, genuine friendship, emotional garbage dump, who knows. You're clinging to some fleeting hope that your "true love" will want you again. I can't say with certainty that will never happen, but there is every indication that it won't. You're clinging to the friendship with him partly because you hope it will become more. I've been where you are - irrationally obsessed with someone. I'm telling you, you're just torturing yourself by keeping him in your life. There are many great guys out there and most of them don't even have herpes. Time to move on from herpes-guy-who-doesn't-like-you. The sooner you do, the sooner you can find the guy you're really "meant for." This is a different guy lol. I was with this guy for two years. Herpes guy and I were never officially a couple and we only dated for a couple of months.
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