RebelLoveSong Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 So, I've recently come across a dilemma with a friend. . . It all started out as flirtatious fun, then I told her before things got out of hand that I was a lesbian, well that didn't go bad, she told me she had thought about having sex with me... (my goodness what a shocker that one was!) And thats before I knew what put me off... She's married, that was my stopper, or so I thought, she told me she was unhappy, and I made that my invitation. Stupid, right? So she asked if, well, if we would be able to have fun without either of us getting attached... I agreed, but I never acted on it, even though I wanted to badly. Then I had to move and she decided she wasn't interested in being with a another woman... just over my absence of one month... I was extremely shocked, and I was really hurt by it, I hadn't realized my attachment... Well maybe I had, I just denied it. So now that I'm able to talk to her again, we talk a lot, like from the time we get up until the time we go to bed. She is back to flirting with me like she did, I'm hesitant about it, because now I'm afraid it will make her uncomfortable. I mentioned that fact and she told me no that she enjoys it. She talks about her husband, she doesn't call him that, she referred it as "you know who... he'll be coming home soon and I won't be on for awhile" of course at the mention of him I get slightly irked. They've been separated for over a year now (as in living arrangements not marriage). Though on occasion she mentions that she thinks that her marriage is going to be over. The thing is, I really want her to know that I care about her, a lot more than I should, because well, she's married! And I shouldn't have allowed myself to meddle in that... But like an idiot, I got "involved" and now, I've fallen for her. In a few days time I won't be able to talk to her because he will be visiting for a month, I really want to tell her how I feel, but I don't know how to go about it. I know that most likely she won't feel how I hope, but at the same time I hope she doesn't, because I don't want her to potentially give up her marriage because of me... I want her to be happy, but I can't keep hiding how I feel, its killing me, I mean in a way the way I talk to her is obvious, and our friends, they can tell... Its painfully obvious the way I do anything she asks just because she knows if she says "please" I'll do it >.< But I really just need advice about how to go about telling her, I really appreciate anyone who takes the time to read this and reply
ja123 Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Don't waste your time with this woman. You have feelings for her, and she doesn't for you. She's separated and on the rebound now. You'll just be a notch in her bed post. Start looking at or cultivating other dating options with women who know they are lesbians, not with one who just wants to experiment. Good luck.
ksinger Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 I'm sorry RebelLoveSong, but I think she is just using you. She is married! And I think not sincere like you - she is just looking for an experiment. I know the truth sometimes hurt.. but somewhere the right person out there for you. I have a sister who is gay and sometimes straight women just looking for something different and do this to her too. Any gay support groups where you live?...maybe you can meet someone who is more interested in you for you? Don't ever settle for less!
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