Author candie13 Posted May 15, 2013 Author Posted May 15, 2013 she can't make you really happy unless she can drive you really crazy, that's what I always say ! 3
Author candie13 Posted May 15, 2013 Author Posted May 15, 2013 Until you've lived my life, you will never understand it. The words are perfect! hey, tbf, do you remember how your first ILY to your partner happened?
LittleTiger Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Last time I checked you have to start somewhere right? I think there are people in this world who met and married after a few months and share a life for several years... is their love less special or less credible?? Just wondering. Not at all - it's just different! Being 'in love' in the early stages is usually infatuation. It has to be because you don't really know that person intimately - even though you may think that you do. If two people are still 'in love' after several years it is a very different kind of 'in love' - there is a stronger bond and the love is much deeper. My guy and I fell in love very quickly. That was three and a half years ago. I love him differently now from the way I did in the beginning. I expect I will love him differently again in another ten years. Just like I did my ex husband. It's how love is.
Els Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 That seems kind of codependent more than anything... I mean it's cute I guess but kind of like weird too. YOU are calling someone ELSE co-dependent???? :confused::confused: Am I talking to the same girl who said her hobbies are 'getting a man and babies' and 'whatever my man likes to do will be my hobbies'? Sorry, I just... you and her can't possibly be the same person, right? 4
Author candie13 Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 love stories or sharing personal experience only, for this thread, please ! 1
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 YOU are calling someone ELSE co-dependent???? :confused::confused: Am I talking to the same girl who said her hobbies are 'getting a man and babies' and 'whatever my man likes to do will be my hobbies'? Sorry, I just... you and her can't possibly be the same person, right? To say you NEED someone is pretty co-dependent is it not?? I know I am co-dep and needy as **** and I don't care at all. If I meet a good guy soon and I like him and he decently likes me too I am attaching to him so hard and holding on for dear life thank you very much and SHE does not care.
gaius Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Gaius, I don't know how else you'd call what you're feeling, if not "love" . You're a very good thread host candie. 2
KungFuJoe Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 To say you NEED someone is pretty co-dependent is it not?? I know I am co-dep and needy as **** and I don't care at all. If I meet a good guy soon and I like him and he decently likes me too I am attaching to him so hard and holding on for dear life thank you very much and SHE does not care. Lol. Please tell me you're joking with this or this is just hyperbole. NO man is gonna stick with you with this attitude.
Author candie13 Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 If I meet a good guy soon and I like him and he decently likes me too I am attaching to him so hard and holding on for dear life thank you very much and SHE does not care. IB, love is not about being clingy or about attaching yourself to a man. It's actually about freedom and about him wanting to stay with you, making efforts to please you and wanting to include you in his future. Him coming freely and willingly towards you, when you are NOT making any active efforts to "get him". Surely, you understand that... I would very much appreciate it if you stopped judging the type of relationship or definition of love other posters have. Any of them, not just KFJoe's. His wife shares his values, his house, his life and that gives him something to show for. Try to find a partner who's share your ideas, values and opinions on love. Build a long lasting couple and stay happy. Until then, may I please ask you to not judge or share your bitter pov on this thread. Ain't nobody got no perfect relationship! But as long as there's love, as long as the couple resists the test of time, and as long as the couple is happy, that makes them very very special and lucky people, IMO ! 2
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Lol. Please tell me you're joking with this or this is just hyperbole. NO man is gonna stick with you with this attitude. I'm dead serious and I'm sure one will. I don't know many guys who leave their kids... I don't come from a place like that.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 IB, love is not about being clingy or about attaching yourself to a man. It's actually about freedom and about him wanting to stay with you, making efforts to please you and wanting to include you in his future. Him coming freely and willingly towards you, when you are NOT making any active efforts to "get him". Surely, you understand that... I would very much appreciate it if you stopped judging the type of relationship or definition of love other posters have. Any of them, not just KFJoe's. His wife shares his values, his house, his life and that gives him something to show for. Try to find a partner who's share your ideas, values and opinions on love. Build a long lasting couple and stay happy. Until then, may I please ask you to not judge or share your bitter pov on this thread. Ain't nobody got no perfect relationship! But as long as there's love, as long as the couple resists the test of time, and as long as the couple is happy, that makes them very very special and lucky people, IMO ! Ok well whatever, I'm saying that how is my needy different than that needy? Anyways I don't care don't explain it because it doesn't even matter to me in the slightest.
Author candie13 Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 Ok well whatever, I'm saying that how is my needy different than that needy? Anyways I don't care don't explain it because it doesn't even matter to me in the slightest. I'm not that sure he is needy, girl, unless you call needy a man who wants the woman he loves by his side, in his life... not needy as in "he cannot possibly breathe unless his wife is there". just sayin'... Don't get jaded, IB, there's a saying in Romanian that swears that there's a shoe for every foot ! 2
Treasa Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I woke up not feeling very well, and also feeling really grouchy. I said to myself, "Traci, you have to go to work. There's no way around that. But you're going to order pizza for lunch, and you're not going to deal with anyone's issues today. They're on their own. And when you get home, you're going to relax and go get a massage." I love the hell out of myself. 5
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 (edited) I'm not that sure he is needy, girl, unless you call needy a man who wants the woman he loves by his side, in his life... not needy as in "he cannot possibly breathe unless his wife is there". just sayin'... Don't get jaded, IB, there's a saying in Romanian that swears that there's a shoe for every foot ! He said "needy" I don't know 15 different definitions for needy, I only know one so I can only apply his use of the word "needy" to the definition I have of "needy". Oh believe me it is BEYOND jaded. But I am not going to shift your thread so carry on I will stop replying. Edited May 16, 2013 by ImperfectionisBeauty 1
Author candie13 Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 He said "needy" I don't know 15 different definitions for needy, I only know one so I can only apply his use of the word "needy" to the definition I have of "needy". Oh believe me it is BEYOND jaded. I hope you won't mind my comment... but unless you're in a loving, committed relationship, indeed, you cannot understand the difference between the two, as I've tried to capture it in my post . I think we should agree to disagree on this one. If you're jaded, IB, it won't happen. So why don't you stop trying so hard and just stay put, hang out with your friends, until the bad spell passes? Practice loving youself, the same way Treasa does - luv u, girl !!! Feel free to replace pizza with decadent icecream or whatever else your heart desires... In my case, I develop a sudden affection for lipstick and high heels ! Real luv, I tell ya !!! 1
tbf Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 hey, tbf, do you remember how your first ILY to your partner happened?Yes but it's a moment I won't and can't share.
KungFuJoe Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I'm dead serious and I'm sure one will. I don't know many guys who leave their kids... I don't come from a place like that. Ah...so you want some guy to knock you up so he'll have a reason to stay. Gotcha.
Author candie13 Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 Yes but it's a moment I won't and can't share. hum... can't ??? you wouldn't... by any chance... be shy, would you ?
Author candie13 Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 Ah...so you want some guy to knock you up so he'll have a reason to stay. Gotcha. berk berk berk ! stop polluting this lovely, romantic thread with these monstrosities !!! share the luuuuuuv.... not the plans! start your own thread with plans, potions and evil schemes of entrapment, you two !
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Ah...so you want some guy to knock you up so he'll have a reason to stay. Gotcha. Absolutely
tbf Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 hum... can't ??? you wouldn't... by any chance... be shy, would you ?Not shy. Disinterested in sharing the private moment. 1
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