candie13 Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 I read about a lot of posters complaining, giving advice, taking advice, but I rarely know if they are in a happy or sad love story. Personally, I have NO idea if I am inlove, I am still figuring it out. I would say I'm living a happy love story, because he is treating me well, I am not in any pain, I got the confirmations I need and I feel fulfilled. Looking in the future, though, I am not really hopeful, because I don't know where my job is going to take me... and until that's settled, I shall just eat my candies, by the shore of the lake and enjoy the view! How about you, are you inlove? How did you know you were inlove? is it a happy love story or a sad love story? are you hopeful or ... not really?
Divasu Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 Oh, you just know. #Beautiful by mariahcarey on SoundCloud - Hear the world?s sounds 1
xpaperxcutx Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 My ex and I broke up last month but I can say we love each other more than friends to still want to be in each other's lives. We broke up because of differences in living style and he had too much on his shoulders to worry about a relationship. I wanted something else entirely, and i realized I couldn't change him to suit my needs. At this point, I'm content. Before I always felt like not having a title to define us was bad, but nowadays, I feel like there are better things to look forward to without emotionally putting myself into a relationship. I realize, even at 23, I'm not mentally and emotionally prepared for a relationship. But overall, from having been with my ex, I learned to grow up and learned to care for others instead of being selfish for a change. So it's affirmative, I do love my ex, but every relationship requires timing as well. We haven't ruled out getting back together in the future, probably after I graduate from college and find a good job. 1
2sure Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 Seeing someone I've decided I'm very fond of. Compared to any one else. 5
Author candie13 Posted May 6, 2013 Author Posted May 6, 2013 Seeing someone I've decided I'm very fond of. Compared to any one else. so.. hopeful or not hopeful about the future ? that is the bigger question !
Author candie13 Posted May 6, 2013 Author Posted May 6, 2013 Oh, you just know. #Beautiful by mariahcarey on SoundCloud - Hear the world?s sounds lol, we need to spend more time together, I think. We see eachother very often, but we are yet to spend 24h together, if you know what I mean. I'm keeping it real, and not holding my breath. There are some things that I am really not that sure about... For the moment, I am enjoying it though. A LOT ! 1
todreaminblue Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 I read about a lot of posters complaining, giving advice, taking advice, but I rarely know if they are in a happy or sad love story. Personally, I have NO idea if I am inlove, I am still figuring it out. I would say I'm living a happy love story, because he is treating me well, I am not in any pain, I got the confirmations I need and I feel fulfilled. Looking in the future, though, I am not really hopeful, because I don't know where my job is going to take me... and until that's settled, I shall just eat my candies, by the shore of the lake and enjoy the view! How about you, are you inlove? How did you know you were inlove? is it a happy love story or a sad love story? are you hopeful or ... not really? i know i have fallen in the deep end when one....its hard to swim......when i feel like i am going under...lol...nauseous, scared, happy excited protective, careful, goofy, awkward....foolish..kamikaze ready to take a bullet.. when i feel all those things in the space of a week...i am a goner....am i in love ......i would say so, its not something i take lightly and i have those feelings.....the deep end is never light and airy....its ...well.....deep...:bunny: throw the rabbits in first to break your fall......deb 4
Author candie13 Posted May 6, 2013 Author Posted May 6, 2013 having feelings should be making you feel light and airy, deb... take care, hugs!
todreaminblue Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 having feelings should be making you feel light and airy, deb... take care, hugs! I have moments when i do feel dreamy light an dairy normally when he smiles......but....with the feelings i have comes guilt for loving someone who wont love me back, who might feel uncomfortable with knowing i had strong feelings for him still..i have had therapy in the past....does it stem from my childhood...without a doubt.......i had a step father who never hugged me, and when i was to show emotion(such as grief or pain of any kind) he would be disgusted with my lack of control....so...I am reserved and controlled most of the time......when i was a child, it was hard for me to get close to someone to open up and show how i cared, so i do it stealth style,stealth love, stealth help,................ my family friends all notice the little things i do, when i was little I learned how to internalize, for me to come out of my shell and open up, is huge, and i have done that, I have come a long way candie, from a child who never depended on my parents to sort out emotional situations, i was always told to stay silent,by my step father, and when i did open up to a girl i thought was a friend, she told her mother who in turn told the whole town by p and c proxy( i was raped as a child )....i am a guarded person, love to me is special, somewhat elusive,sacred to me, and my loyalty to those i love,they never question it....even though i am a dreamer, and i do get these dreamy feelings, my heart is guarded which makes deep water seem a breeze...but thats me....i am opening up.......even more so of late I am a work in progress...and yes....i am in love......i dont take things lightly...i never will...i appreciate love too much to be flippant..deb
iris219 Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 I might be in love, but I can't say for sure yet. I want to have a child ASAP, so I'm trying to decide if that's clouding my judgement. I know that I haven't felt this way about anyone in many years, not even my ex who I thought I was so in love with (I wasn't). We definitely have a future together. If I don't mess it up by getting scared or resentful and freaking out, we'll certainly be together for awhile. 2
Divasu Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 lol, we need to spend more time together, I think. We see eachother very often, but we are yet to spend 24h together, if you know what I mean. I hear ya! The safest way to fall in love is by getting to know someone and spending quality time with them. I'm keeping it real, and not holding my breath. There are some things that I am really not that sure about...Oh? That sounds like you have some reservations. It's good to be aware of them. For the moment, I am enjoying it though. A LOT ! Some Psychologists have shown that it takes about a fifth of a second to fall in love. And that when a person falls in love, 12 areas of the brain work in tandem to release euphoria-inducing chemicals such as dopamine, oxytocin, adrenaline and vasopression. You can read more about it here. 2
Toddbt12y1 Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Madly in love darling. No. My love would have been a classic she cheated he was an idiot doormat. You know? A tragedy. He(I) still love her. Though I know better then to be with her...to my sorrows. Now some other Guy is pounding the lady. This Romeo is bleeding No. I do seriously love the Guy. Four year and half years together. Slightly rocky at first setting sail. But I promised her I'd not make her cry. So...I stopped arguing with her for probably near three years. When she started well...cheating I had to break that promise...we argued a lot. But I do so love her. A poet loves his pen. It puts into fashion his soul, finely expressed onto paper. She was my pen. I could finely express my being upon. Oh well such is life. Love isn't always happy.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Obviously I'm not... Being inlove is stupid and retarded and overrated. I am filling my free time with as many dates as possible.. Maybe someone will stick
Silly_Girl Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Loved-up to the absolute eyeballs and loving every second. It's a new 'brand' of love for me. I like it very much. We get married in two months. I had the simplest, happiest day I can recall on Sunday. 'Nothing' happened, yet it was PERFECT. Very much looking forward to the future. 6
soccerrprp Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Loved-up to the absolute eyeballs and loving every second. It's a new 'brand' of love for me. I like it very much. We get married in two months. I had the simplest, happiest day I can recall on Sunday. 'Nothing' happened, yet it was PERFECT. Very much looking forward to the future. Yay, love that kind of love. I wish I had it so easy! LOL! But loving life, the thrill and the challenges of finding love! 3
sweetkiwi Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 I haven't felt so close to someone ever. He knows my secrets, I know his. There's nothing about him I don't love . We're trying to plan our future and he's so much more patient than I ever was. Learning though. He has a faith in me that I haven't experienced in a partner. And I think he's the most interesting, kind, and intelligent person I've ever met. And he loves ME!!! Sometimes I'm like, "Wtf, we're complete opposites, how did this happen???!" But I am just so grateful it has and even as I write this I have tears in my eyes and a knot in my throat. So. Yes. We are very in love . 4
Author candie13 Posted May 7, 2013 Author Posted May 7, 2013 I hear ya! Some Psychologists have shown that it takes about a fifth of a second to fall in love. And that when a person falls in love, 12 areas of the brain work in tandem to release euphoria-inducing chemicals such as dopamine, oxytocin, adrenaline and vasopression. You can read more about it here. OMG, I've had the occasion to get acquainted with that dreaded second a few times. I was all functioning and ok ... half a second later I wasn't able to remember my own name, I was in so much shock!!! I was young :laugh:
cocorico Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 How about you, are you inlove? How did you know you were inlove? is it a happy love story or a sad love story? are you hopeful or ... not really? Yes. I knew I was in love when I realised that after several years together, I could not wipe the smile off my face when I thought of him, and my heart would start racing and my mind spinning when we were going to see each other, and all of his "faults" were still there but didn't matter so much because I'd gotten used to them, and he to mine, and we could simply enjoy each other without worrying what might happen next. It was definitely a happy love story, and each day we add to the happy memories. 2
Divasu Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 OMG, I've had the occasion to get acquainted with that dreaded second a few times. I was all functioning and ok ... half a second later I wasn't able to remember my own name, I was in so much shock!!! I was young :laugh: What does being young have to do with it. **neener** Disclaimer: I don't mean when you meet someone for the first time. I've never experienced that personally. I mean in that instance when you've been dating someone for a bit and you have "the moment". You're hanging out doing whatever, and one second you're not in love, and the next second it hits out of no where, all within those few seconds. Know what I mean? 1
sweetkiwi Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 What does being young have to do with it. **neener** Disclaimer: I don't mean when you meet someone for the first time. I've never experienced that personally. I mean in that instance when you've been dating someone for a bit and you have "the moment". You're hanging out doing whatever, and one second you're not in love, and the next second it hits out of no where, all within those few seconds. Know what I mean? My first love was love at first sight. We both stopped in our tracks and were left with our mouths hanging open. It wasn't a sexual thing either. I was 12 he was 14. We wouldn't actually date till 6 years later. But with my current boyfriend that's exactly what happened. It was strange to occur whilst texting but that's exactly what happened. I was breathless. And my first thoughts coming out of my stupor were, "Fhuck. I love him." 1
Divasu Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 According to a study men fall in love sooner than women. An Error Occurred Setting Your User Cookie Yes, I've read that as well. When you consider the three phases of falling in love include: first is lust, then attraction, then attachment. This would explain why men 'fall in love' faster, if one believes and agrees that the physical make-up includes men being primarily driven by lust and the loins initially.
Divasu Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 My first love was love at first sight. We both stopped in our tracks and were left with our mouths hanging open. It wasn't a sexual thing either. I was 12 he was 14. We wouldn't actually date till 6 years later. But with my current boyfriend that's exactly what happened. It was strange to occur whilst texting but that's exactly what happened. I was breathless. And my first thoughts coming out of my stupor were, "Fhuck. I love him." Well I hope it wasn't sexually driven at age 12. But that's nice. And, we all experience it differently.
Author candie13 Posted May 7, 2013 Author Posted May 7, 2013 What does being young have to do with it. **neener** Disclaimer: I don't mean when you meet someone for the first time. I've never experienced that personally. I mean in that instance when you've been dating someone for a bit and you have "the moment". You're hanging out doing whatever, and one second you're not in love, and the next second it hits out of no where, all within those few seconds. Know what I mean? I totally know what you mean! Last summer I fell inlove over my head and as expected in these cases, it didn't end well. This time, I feel the need to control this r... also I know very well that the moment it hits you, you're doomed! I mean, I actually like this guy, not just physically, not just romantically. I like him as a man, as a person, and I am not oblivious to his bad traits of character. I hope I see him for whom he really is. In a way, it would be sort of of an inconvenience to me to fall inlove, if you know what I mean... but I'd still enjoy it. Guess I'm a bit curious about the future, hope he won't mess it up . 1
Divasu Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 You mean some men. Hmm. So, are you saying your initial attraction to a woman, does not include physical or sexual? Not even a teenie weenie bit?
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