StrangerThanFiction Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 Hey guys and gals, I'm new to the forum and could use some advice... My live-in bf of 3 years dumped me a month or so ago for another woman he just met and moved out of our place. The first week after the BU I was utterly devastated. Couldn't eat, couldn't sleep. If it wasn't for a friend of mine I probably would've just ended up giving up. Then week 2 started and all of a sudden I was feeling pretty good and was laughing again and I felt hope and even some joy at being alive. I should mention right now that I've been maintaining NC with him since the BU. He texted me twice in the first the week to see how I was doing (told him I was fine. Period) and then texted me once in the second week about getting his things (told him where he could pick them up). Since then there has been no contact whatsoever. Anyway, week 2 went by pretty good and I was like "hey, this isn't so bad! I must be healing quicker than I thought! Hoorah!" On my merry way I went. Then week three hits and all of a sudden I'm thinking about him again and all I can think about is how much I wish he would contact me again. I felt this horrible need to feel that he misses me or even thinks about me once in awhile. I'm trying to come to some sort of acceptance of the fact that our 3 year relationship meant nothing to him as soon as something "better" came along. It has really effected my feelings of self-worth and self-esteem knowing that I could be thrown out like just some pile of rubbish. I've been battling the urges to contact him daily now. So far I've kept to NC by thinking about how I would feel if I texted him and he undoubtedly didn't reply or told me to eff off. I guess I'm just wondering what has worked for any of you guys to keep you from giving in to those urges to contact the ex? And it would be great to know if there really is a light at the end of the tunnel and that everything's going to be alright... Also, why would I go from devastated to happy and then back to upset like that? Was I just in survival mode and that was my mind's way of dealing with overwhelming pain? Thanks a lot mind for being such an indecisive jackass!
Smokemirrors Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 Read this, it will definitely help. It was my bible for a week 10 Core Breakup Boundaries That Every Person Should Live By | Baggage Reclaim by Natalie Lue
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