fray5 Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 I'm 26 and been in a relationship for 6 months now with this amazing girl. I met her 3 months after getting out of a 7 month relationship with an ex. That relationship really drove my self-esteem into the ground. I don't have any desire to be with my ex but I will think of that every now and then. I had some health problems during that which I feel put me into a depression I'm still in. I have nothing to complain with about my current girlfriend except for that I constantly analyze the relationship and have a ton of anxiety for no reason. I keep feeling like I have to break up with her but she meets everything I want in a girl so I know that'd be silly. I've started seeing a therapist and they said I'm depressed. They also said this makes you see everything from a negative point. Things have also progressed super fast with us and I've allowed it- things like talk of the future, etc. I just feel so messed up bc I can't tell where my true feelings are... I can't tell if all my anxiety and depression is causing this or if I truly should be alone. It hurts so bad bc I want everything with her but I feel like I can't have it. I feel like if I break up everything will be better and then I think of how stupid I'd be. We've been spending a ton of time together too along with the future plans talks so maybe I'm just feeling overwhelmed? I don't want to mess things up with her but I'm so confused. What do I do? I've recently been put on an antidepressant also, it has been 2 days
stephgabriele Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 Feeling overwhelmed is totally normal. I'd say let her know what's going on. Being honest is always the first step. If you let her know that Yes, you want to stay with her but things need to slow down because you have things go on that need to be worked through. Keep going to the therapist and hey, maybe when you're ready bring her along. It helps a lot and she gets to see that side of you and she will have a better understanding. I was dating someone who was overwhelmed and didn't say anything until the day he broke it off with me and had a complete meltdown. It's painful that way so just stay honest!
Author fray5 Posted May 6, 2013 Author Posted May 6, 2013 Feeling overwhelmed is totally normal. I'd say let her know what's going on. Being honest is always the first step. If you let her know that Yes, you want to stay with her but things need to slow down because you have things go on that need to be worked through. Keep going to the therapist and hey, maybe when you're ready bring her along. It helps a lot and she gets to see that side of you and she will have a better understanding. I was dating someone who was overwhelmed and didn't say anything until the day he broke it off with me and had a complete meltdown. It's painful that way so just stay honest! Thanks for your reply. I'm just having such a rough time bc I can't tell what's going on with me and not sure if it's depression or needing to be alone. I'm thinking maybe I'm just feeling a little smoothered too. Do you think if I talk with her about it, it will help things? I'm a little worried about how to do it as I don't want her to worry something is wrong.
stephgabriele Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 Thanks for your reply. I'm just having such a rough time bc I can't tell what's going on with me and not sure if it's depression or needing to be alone. I'm thinking maybe I'm just feeling a little smoothered too. Do you think if I talk with her about it, it will help things? I'm a little worried about how to do it as I don't want her to worry something is wrong. I'm trying to think of how I would have liked my ex to let me know. I think it will definitely help things or else she is going to worry (like many women do) about what she has done. Let her know you have things going on and would like to do some things to help yourself heal that way you can have a great relationship with her. Try slowing down the worrying yourself as well! It can get really exhausting. I have to go to a therapist for worrying and having OCD with thoughts. Let me tell you, I hit rock bottom and I'm just now pulling myself out. It's a vicious vicious cycle. Just trust life a little more
tbf Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 How Long Do Antidepressants Take to Work? | Psych Central The most commonly prescribed modern antidepressants include SSRIs — such as Prozac, Lexapro, Celexa and Paxil — and SNRIs — such as Pristiq, Cumbalta and Effexor. Although the claim is made that some people may be able to start to feel less depressed within 2 weeks of taking one of these kinds of antidepressants, most people won’t start experiencing the full positive effects of the medication until 6 to 8 weeks after beginning it.Whomever prescribed the meds should have told you the above. Give it time.
stephgabriele Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 SPOT ON! I used to be on medication and it took a few months. It depends on the person but it will help with patience. How Long Do Antidepressants Take to Work? | Psych Central Whomever prescribed the meds should have told you the above. Give it time.
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