palamala Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 He told me he needs time to get himself back together, because he cannot live like this any longer. He has problems at home, with his job, finance, his boss, everything basically. He also said that he feels bad for his dog, that she is not in the world to eat and sleep, that she deserves more, but he doesn't have time to give her this. And that he doesn't want me to suffer being with him, that those are his problems he needs to solve by himself. He started smoking again after 5 years and he thinks he's maybe been drinking a bit too much lately and that he needs to fix this. And that it can last a day, a week or a month. He says it's the 2nd time in his life he feels so lost, the first time was when his father died. But if he really loved me, wouldn't he want to go through this together? I told him i can be there for him, no matter what, but he said it's better for both of us if we take some time apart. But you cant just run away everytime a problem pops up, can you? I don't know what to think, how much time to give him. Or if it's really worth it. When I had problems I was really happy to have him. But he says he doesn't want me to get into all this because it is only him who can solve this. Is there any chance he's gonna come back, or is it just a way to break up? When he told me this I couldn't say anything back, I just cried. This was yesterday. So today i sent him an email (we agreed it's better if we dont see each other these days), saying how i feel and what i think, and that i dont understand, if the problem really isnt in me, then why is he rejecting me. Before everything was alright, i didnt even think this could happen, we really didnt have any problems and we didnt argue, except for the small things, i thought everything was perfect. Then last tuesday we saw each other and everything was normal, then I went somewhere for two days, and since then he became really weird over texts, and we didnt see each other till sunda. And that's when he told me this. He's been really worried for the past two weeks and told me he is getting into a weird stage, but that he hopes it ends soon. But it never affected us, he was still really nice to me and everything. I'm 24 and he's turning 41, maybe also this is a problem and he sees me as another burden and someone he needs to take care of and he thinks he cant handle this at the moment. But i can take care of myself, i just want to be with him when he's going through this. Any advice?
CarrieT Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 I'm 24 and he's turning 41, You are way too young to be with someone that is acting like this. There must be other issues there that he is not bringing up. Leave him alone and find someone from your generation...
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