andy_w Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 (edited) I recently took a girl out on a date (It went very well), I knew her when I was a kid but hadn't seen her in at least 15 years at least (I'm currently 25). We made plans for a second date that she seemed really excited for the morning before via text, but a couple of hours later cancelled saying that after thinking she doesn't think she's ready to start seeing anyone right now, but that I'm a really great guy and maybe we can hang out another time. 7-8 months ago she got out of a 9 year relationship. This past weekend I was at a BBQ of a mutual friend, when the mutual friend told her that over the phone and that I was there she came by almost immediately... Anyway, I'm quite interested and could use some advice or interpretations at least. Do I just play it cool and wait for her to contact me...? Do I initiate contact? Ask her to do something? :S Thanks Edited May 6, 2013 by andy_w
carhill Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 Date other women. The is the classic bait and switch. Get you hooked on the 'dating' model, then switch you to the 'back burner' model. Pretty easy to do with the allure of intimacy and sex. Guys are generally easy to hook. I noted she cancelled the day of the date and her compelling reason was that she wasn't ready to start seeing someone right now, yet had just 'seen someone' (you) immediately prior. Interesting how that works. Live, learn and date other women.
will1988 Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 I agree with Carhill, this girl is playing games. She gets off on the fact that you want her but can't have her. Either that or she is really confused about what to do because she got out of a 9 year relationship (so from 15 to 25 I'm guessing), and has not really had a time to sow her wild oats. I would move along. Let her come crawling back to you, but by then you will be on to the next honey.
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