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So my Ex girlfriend dumped me 7 weeks ago I was devastated the first 5 weeks cause I loved her so much. Then one night about 4 days ago I was doing some hard thinking and finally realized this girl didn't deserve me at all. I did everything for her bought her the best stuff gave her all the Love I had I even bought her a 5 carat engagement ring the day she dumped me . Thank God I didn't give it to her yet saved me 37k. Yea I know she has her problems and is young at 23 so she probably has GIGS . But the way I see it she ****ed up and it's her loss . It's not my fault she didint know a Great thing when she had it.Ive feel really indifferent toward her and don't care to try to get her back anymore. I'm done chasing and done feeling bad . Is this normal to feel?

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So my Ex girlfriend dumped me 7 weeks ago I was devastated the first 5 weeks cause I loved her so much. Then one night about 4 days ago I was doing some hard thinking and finally realized this girl didn't deserve me at all. I did everything for her bought her the best stuff gave her all the Love I had I even bought her a 5 carat engagement ring the day she dumped me . Thank God I didn't give it to her yet saved me 37k. Yea I know she has her problems and is young at 23 so she probably has GIGS . But the way I see it she ****ed up and it's her loss . It's not my fault she didint know a Great thing when she had it.Ive feel really indifferent toward her and don't care to try to get her back anymore. I'm done chasing and done feeling bad . Is this normal to feel?

 

When I read this my heart dropped because I hoped it wasn't my ex posting. hehe :)

 

BUT hell, GOOD FOR YOU!! Stick with it. Got any secrets to share?!

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When I read this my heart dropped because I hoped it wasn't my ex posting. hehe :)

 

 

HAHA, me too! :bunny:

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When I read this my heart dropped because I hoped it wasn't my ex posting. hehe :)

 

BUT hell, GOOD FOR YOU!! Stick with it. Got any secrets to share?!

 

Just a lot of soul searching and tired of being taken for granted. It's funny cause everyone in her family and friends knows what a great guy I am and there all mad at her for letting me slip away . I know nobody will ever love her as much as I did but at the end of the day she choose the path she wants to go on . My only crime for her breaking up with me was that I loved her to much lmao WTF?! Seriously ?! I can't tell you how good it feels to be over her. I think I still care deep down but she has really hardend my heart. And to be honest I don't know if ill ever be able to let another girl come that close to my heart again

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Just a lot of soul searching and tired of being taken for granted. It's funny cause everyone in her family and friends knows what a great guy I am and there all mad at her for letting me slip away . I know nobody will ever love her as much as I did but at the end of the day she choose the path she wants to go on . My only crime for her breaking up with me was that I loved her to much lmao WTF?! Seriously ?! I can't tell you how good it feels to be over her. I think I still care deep down but she has really hardend my heart. And to be honest I don't know if ill ever be able to let another girl come that close to my heart again

 

 

Just be careful. 7 weeks isn't that long and this may not be exactly what you think it is, especially if you really, really loved her... Proceed with caution :p

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I'm glad you're feeling better and moving on. That is GOOD!

 

My only crime for her breaking up with me was that I loved her to much lmao

 

Honest question that you don't have to answer here. Did your "loved her too much" equal suffocating to her? Perhaps you were trying too hard to get her, and missed some signs?

 

I ask this honestly... Not to offend you. Just give it some thought for the future.

 

(oh, and I ask because I've been on the receiving end of that love.)

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I'm glad you're feeling better and moving on. That is GOOD!

 

 

 

Honest question that you don't have to answer here. Did your "loved her too much" equal suffocating to her? Perhaps you were trying too hard to get her, and missed some signs?

 

I ask this honestly... Not to offend you. Just give it some thought for the future.

 

(oh, and I ask because I've been on the receiving end of that love.)[/

 

That could of been what it was. I did do a lot for her and she used to say she felt bad that I did so much for her. The night we broke up I told her I love her more then anything and she said that scares her.

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Just be careful. 7 weeks isn't that long and this may not be exactly what you think it is, especially if you really, really loved her... Proceed with caution :p

Yep, anything that gets as serious as an engagement/proposal point generally doesn't dissipate quickly. One goes through the stages of grief. Intellectually, it's possible to sort things out fairly quickly, sure. The emotional healing generally takes much longer.

 

So OP, if she rang you up today, how would it go? Analyze those words, then store them away for when she does. Compare. It's interesting. Good luck and hope you can recoup some of that ring cost. Yikes.

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enough is enough, at times.

 

I suspect that after all that low, your brain needs a high period. Watch out for the downside period. Stay strong and... yeah, get rid of that ring asap!

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Thanks guys ill be careful and I hope how I'm feeling isn't a illusion.

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That could of been what it was. I did do a lot for her and she used to say she felt bad that I did so much for her. The night we broke up I told her I love her more then anything and she said that scares her.

 

Holy crap! 37K for a ring????!!!! Is that in USD????!!!! :)

 

Anyway, it sounds like she was not on the same level in terms of the relationship. I don't know more than what you have told us, but other than material gifts, what did you offer her?

 

Not to offend, but look back and think, why, if everyone else thought you were great that she didn't. Or not enough to stay?

 

I have a friend who dates often. He has money and isn't shy about using it. Much of it is a power-thing/ego trip for him to exhibit himself, but the girls he dates don't stick around. I believe it's b/c he's mostly one-dimensional and outside his wealth, doesn't provide excitement, romance and maturity to the relationship.

 

Wrong? If so, I would say it's great! But, then, was it real love? After such a short period of time, already over her?

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When I read this my heart dropped because I hoped it wasn't my ex posting. hehe :)

 

BUT hell, GOOD FOR YOU!! Stick with it. Got any secrets to share?!

 

I thought you were lying about him proposing.

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I thought you were lying about him proposing.

 

 

I was!

 

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I was!

 

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Oh ok, I guess I didn't understand why you said that you hoped it wasn't your ex writing this if he never proposed.

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Holy crap! 37K for a ring????!!!! Is that in USD????!!!! :)

 

Anyway, it sounds like she was not on the same level in terms of the relationship. I don't know more than what you have told us, but other than material gifts, what did you offer her?

 

Not to offend, but look back and think, why, if everyone else thought you were great that she didn't. Or not enough to stay?

 

I have a friend who dates often. He has money and isn't shy about using it. Much of it is a power-thing/ego trip for him to exhibit himself, but the girls he dates don't stick around. I believe it's b/c he's mostly one-dimensional and outside his wealth, doesn't provide excitement, romance and maturity to the relationship.

 

Wrong? If so, I would say it's great! But, then, was it real love? After such a short period of time, already over her?

 

I should tell you the girl has some serious emotional problems I knew this going into the relationship . Her Mother just died a few weeks before we met. I was her rock always there encouging her and helping her cope through this whole ruff time. I was very supportive of her going back to school and helping her get over her depression. And I was extremely romantic I gave her flowers and wrote her songs . The problem was she comes from a family that doesn't really show there emotions. But slowly but surly she started to show them and 5 months in the relationship she told me she loved me and I was the only man she ever loved. When she broke up with me she told me that she knows she'll never find another man who is as good to her and loves her as much as I do. And she broke up with me cause she knows how unemotional she is and is scared that shell never be able to show me the love I show her.

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