sn47som Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 (edited) Hey guys, I just signed up here and this looks to be a great forum. I am feeling in ruins rite now. I need advice on my "on a break" relationship. I started dated my girl about 14 months ago. She fell for me pretty fast. I was a much slower process for falling. Actually I didn't really fall until a week ago or so, but we'll get into that later. Anyway, the past 4 months have been a progressive downward spiral leading up to our current break. My girl is very indecisive keep in mind which makes it hard to deal with understanding her sometimes. I dont have a job rite now so income is very limited and she lives about an hour away, but works only about 25 minutes from me. I just haven't been able to go see her at work and especially at her place due to funds and some depression. Its my fault why we are on this break. I slowly stopped seeing her and wasn't the best boyfriend. So on the break over the past couple months, she started talking to someone else naturally, this is my fault remember. But she didn't tell me until a few weeks ago. He was there for her and treated her right. Supposedly nothing happened, they just went out a couple times with friends but she did start to have feelings for him. SO, on top of this, she tells me this past week that she is sick! like some kind of cyst that needs to go down. I am feeling in ruins cuz i screwed things up and she is now sick on lots of different meds and in pain and its just horrible timing. So now, she says they are just friends but I dont really know, and we can't talk about it and we don't know how long it will take to get better. Now I know if she will come back to me. She said she still loves me but that was weeks ago and she just won't talk to me about anything. I'm in a weird spot and don't know how to look at her, I am falling in love with her now and she is telling me to move on to someone more healthy but she doesn't want to move on from me. It's really a shame what things have turned out to. We used to laugh and connect like no other, now it's far from that. Edited May 6, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
Author sn47som Posted May 6, 2013 Author Posted May 6, 2013 I got depressed and stopped putting effort in. I couldnt go see her. Her schedule is full all day working and picking up her kids everyday amongst other things. She is a single mom with 3 kids so she's very busy. She doesnt have time to come see me during the day. So she expected me to go see her which is understandable. I have a lot more time but very limited funds. So naturally we started seeing less and less of each other. It just irritates me that she didnt tell me rite away about seeing someone. She said she didnt want to hurt my feelings. But I love her thats why im still hanging on. She loves me too, but she is sick now and its just weird, we havent made love in over 3 months or even seen each other. We are distant now but there was miscommunication involved. She thinks maybe I should move on to someone more healthy. This is a tough situation so any perspective would be helpful. I want her, not anybody else. But she feels bad if I stick around because of her condition and all.
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