thr1986 Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 I broke up with my girlfriend of a year this past Monday simply by ignoring her completely. She texted, called, ect and I ignored her because of a conversation I overheard her having that would justify a breakup. It has been a really tough week. I think about her ALL THE TIME and honestly still love her. Tonight I called her to see if she wanted me to mail her 2 belongings that are at my apartment. The conversation escalated into her telling me that she still loved me and has been thinking about me all week. She told me this has been the worst week of her life and that her mom is flying out to be with her next week to help out. I told her that I do still love her as well and said that I have been thinking about her and that it has been a tough week for me also. The conversation ended with me saying I would mail her the 2 belongings and it is assumed that we are broken up, we didnt need to discuss it. Did I lose that upper hand that I had by ignoring her? I feel better after speaking to her and feel that I have some closure rather than just Ignoring her. Did i lose the uppper hand by telling her that i am having similar feelings to those that she is having? It sounded like she thought I was doing just fine without her and now she knows that I am feeling sad as well and that I still love her. How would this make a girl feel to know that I still was thinking about her?
mtnbiker3000 Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 Well, it reads like you are broken up by your choice. So what are you trying to have the upper-hand for? Do you want her back? I'm confused.
Author thr1986 Posted May 6, 2013 Author Posted May 6, 2013 Yes it is my choice for our breakup. I called her and told her that I still love her and that I still think about her but it is over. I would assume that some of the pain she was experiencing has subsided because she finally heard from me right? but do I still have the upper hand in the conclusion of the relationship?
mtnbiker3000 Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 Yes it is my choice for our breakup. I called her and told her that I still love her and that I still think about her but it is over. I would assume that some of the pain she was experiencing has subsided because she finally heard from me right? but do I still have the upper hand in the conclusion of the relationship? Is that really even necessary? I mean, who cares about 'upper-hand'? You should now be focused on recovery and moving on! How old are you and your ex? How long was your RS? How much did it mean to you/her? Knowing this may help get at what I believe you are asking here...
OzHeartache Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 but do I still have the upper hand in the conclusion of the relationship? Who cares if you have the upper hand, sometimes you just got to be the bigger person and let it go, plenty I want to say/ask of my gf, but if she decides its over for good on this "need space period" then letting her have it or getting in the last word is not going to solve anything or bring her back to me ....... sometimes you just need to let things go (for your own sanity if nothing else)
lonewalker Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 Yes it is my choice for our breakup. I called her and told her that I still love her and that I still think about her but it is over. I would assume that some of the pain she was experiencing has subsided because she finally heard from me right? but do I still have the upper hand in the conclusion of the relationship? I dont understand why is a upper hand important? u end it and u want to feel u have a upper hand. I didnt know what went wrong but i feel thats shallow and selfish esp she isnt the one who ends it. Maybe u love ur ego more.
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