jnd2009 Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 My history is all over this board, some don't care for my decisions I've made, but I figured I'd check in. MM and I are still talking, but as friends. We hang out here and there, talk often. Even though the thought of "messing around" sounds nice, I know it's not right and I will not do it (I'm still with my bf, his W is pregnant with their first child). I feel great heading home knowing that we can be friends and not be doing anything. My main reason for posting is I believe my last post on here referenced me wanting us to just be friends. Well so far we're doing just that.
Sarabi Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 You are brave honestly... I don't think I could cope with being "friends" with him right now...or ever. Aside from the attraction, I would get too upset, too angry...it would definitely feel too painful. Not that he would care of course, his marriage is intact and fabulous (or at least I assume it to be fabulous).
ThatJustHappened Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Does his wife know about you? Does she know your history and that you're still hanging out? How about your boyfriend? Does he know? If not, then you're both still cheating. 1
RickFox Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 And I might add, he's still hanging around simply for the opportunity to bed you once more. 1
Author jnd2009 Posted August 29, 2013 Author Posted August 29, 2013 I stepped away for a while because I didn't want all these thoughts of this to get to me. But yes, both his W and my bf know we hang out. They're okay with it. My bf and I have gone out a couple times with him and it wasn't awkward. Just trying to keep it all in the past. Their first child was born not long ago so we've talked but I haven't seen MM since he's obviously busy with the baby. It does still hurt a little deep down but only because we were messing around while she was pregnant (which we didnt know of yet) but they wanted to start a family yet he was still messing with me- that's what got to me. Now that they have a child it's easier to no longer do anything with him because I just think what if he were to get me pregnant? I just think it's way more complicated with him having a family now and not just a W. So, yea, still just friends
sweet_pea Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 Does his wife/BF know that you guys had an affair/PA? 1
affairaddict Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I do not think it's brave being "friends" with ex affair partner quite the opposite. You will never move on whilst you're secretly in love with "your friend" 1
Hazyhead Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I think he knows you'll be there when he wants it and maybe that's the case? In remaining friends with him, you'll never get over him, jnd, and find a relationship that fulfils you. Where do you see yourself this time next year? If the honest answer to that is that you hope he'll come back to you, then I think you need to reevaluate your friendship.
hermione08 Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 Sitting in the Dschungel...sorry, Bowie reference My 2 cents: not a good idea to stay friends. As other people have said: it makes it much harder to get over him.
anne1707 Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 Even though the thought of "messing around" sounds nice If you feel this way then he is not "just a friend" to you.
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